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"I hope that there will be light in my eyes in the future and live the life I want."
MengMeng edited the last word with slender fingers, clicked some buttons visible to friends, selected one group named Ke, and then pressed the publish button to push the message to the circle of friends.
Pushing messages to this Qun Ke in the circle of friends every day is a compulsory course for MengMeng.
After breakfast in the morning, she will take photos with her mobile phone and send them to her circle of friends.
Finish yoga at noon, take a beautiful selfie in front of the mirror and send it to a circle of friends.
Before going to bed at night, after browsing the chicken soup in the subscription number, MengMeng used to send her feelings of the day to her circle of friends.
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But MengMeng's circle of friends will never receive comments and praises, because all her information is only pushed to a group of friends, and there is only one person in this group.
02. Affection is angered by ruthlessness. Tonight is as long as last night.
MengMeng is my friend. Recently, she has fallen into extreme anxiety. She fell in love with a man named Ke Li, who is the CEO of a star-studded Internet startup and a big customer of MengMeng Company.
MengMeng is responsible for the expansion of the company's big data solutions. Starry sky is one of her expansion goals.
The first time we met was at the headquarters of Wangjing soho Starry Sky.
"Miss, who are you looking for?" The beautiful white girl at the front desk, with big sparkly eyes and a smile, asked MengMeng politely.
"I'm Alina Zhang, the business development manager of a company. I have an appointment with Mr. Li at 2 pm. " MengMeng also politely responded.
"Ok, you come with me."
The girl led MengMeng to a spacious and bright office. The huge floor-to-ceiling glass windows are transparent and neat. There is a big table with a silver-white Apple computer on it. Behind the desk sat a handsome young man, a white shirt with good texture tightly wrapped in a strong figure, the neckline of the shirt opened at will, a Bulgari platinum necklace slipped inadvertently, and the breath of hormones came out in generate.
Mr. Li, your guest has arrived at the front desk, the girl said sweetly.
Ke Li raised his head, deep eyes toward MengMeng, chiseled face, straight Greek nose, eyebrows are not very wide, slender eyes with single eyelids, two thin lips and corners of the mouth rising. In an instant, I had Jing Boran's sense of sight.
MengMeng felt his face flushed, but he didn't expect the low and steady voice on the phone to come from such a charming little handsome guy.
"Hello, Manager Zhang, please sit down." The familiar slightly magnetic voice rang again.
MengMeng suddenly felt the deer bumping around in his heart. I haven't felt this way for a long time since I broke up with my first boyfriend.
That afternoon, MengMeng was absent-minded, listening to Li Ke and Kan Kan, talking about the future of the Internet and the development trend of big data ... MengMeng admired the young CEO's understanding of the Internet industry.
Unfortunately, Xiaoxiao is a start-up company after all, and the scheme recommended by MengMeng Company is not suitable.
When he left, MengMeng added Li Ke WeChat.
After returning to China, she couldn't wait to open Ke Li's circle of friends to see his life, but Ke Li's circle of friends was always a gray horizontal line.
From then on, MengMeng would open Ke Li's head every day when he was free. Seeing his sunny and warm smiling face, MengMeng will be inexplicably excited.
Originally used to diving in a circle of friends, she began to update the dynamics from time to time every day. MengMeng built a group called Ke in the circle of friends, and only put it in it. The function of grouping friends allowed MengMeng to express himself unscrupulously.
MengMeng wants Ke Li to see a healthy, interesting and talented aunt. So I try my best to bask in sports, food and books …
Friends who are familiar with MengMeng know that she is a typical family girl and has almost no hobbies. The visible function of grouping friends allows MengMeng to be who he wants to be.
Which reminds me,
The famous "impression management" in psychology, people try to manage and control other people's impressions of themselves, in order to get favorable evaluation and relationship feedback as much as possible.
I have to admit that Tencent's research on user psychology is quite in place.
Secret love is destined to be a lonely journey.
However, MengMeng did not get the expected feedback. Ke Li in the circle of friends completely ignored her performance, without any feedback, evaluation or praise.
Psychologists define unrequited love as a situation in which a unrequited lover desires to establish an attachment relationship with another person, but the other person does not respond to the same desire.
MengMeng in unrequited love began to become anxious, and her uncontrollable yearning, like a wild ivy on the roadside, unconsciously covered MengMeng's heart.
She wandered around several times by herself, and unexpectedly came to the vicinity of Wangjing soho unnoticed. But she was afraid of accidentally bumping into Ke Li, and this contradictory feeling overwhelmed MengMeng.
Once when she transferred to soho T3, she happened to meet the little girl with big eyes at the front desk, who had just come out of Costa coffee shop.
MengMeng recognized the girl first, and hurriedly bowed his head and turned to go.
I didn't expect the girl to recognize her,
"Hey, Manager Zhang, what a coincidence. Are you here on business?"
The girl's voice is still sweet.
"Oh, no, I have an appointment with a friend ..." MengMeng perfunctory.
"Well, welcome to our company again," the girl skillfully said to MengMeng in well-trained words.
"Oh, ok, is Mr. Li busy recently?" MengMeng took the opportunity to summon up courage to ask 1.
"Mr Li and his wife have gone to Morocco for a holiday."
"General Li, are you all married?" MengMeng was a little dizzy in an instant.
"Yes, don't you know? Li got married long ago, and they have a good relationship. No matter how busy you are, you will ask for leave every year ... "
The girl is also a scheming and gossipy person. She immediately introduced Meng Meng to Ke Li's family situation.
1985, Ke Li was with his girlfriend. At that time, he had not started a business and had nothing. Along the way, he has experienced countless unspeakable hardships, pains and failures, but their feelings for each other are getting deeper and deeper.
Ke Li is young and charming, surrounded by admirers, but he always treats his feelings. On 20 14, the company was listed on the New Third Board, and Ke Li married his girlfriend.
Hearing this, MengMeng's heart fell into the abyss.
After that day, MengMeng fell ill and his circle of friends was no longer updated.
You can choose to love someone hopelessly, but don't deceive yourself with false hopes.
Research shows that almost everyone will experience unrequited love in early adulthood. Because the relationship between the two sides in secret love is neither balanced nor reciprocal, individuals who have been in secret love for a long time may feel anxious, dissatisfied, inferior and even depressed because their emotional needs are not expressed and satisfied.
Although unrequited love is a kind of love in essence, its development process and characteristics are very different from mutual equal love. Compared with individuals whose purpose is to form romantic relationships, those individuals whose communication purpose is not clear are more likely to have unilateral relationships.
Obviously, this is the case in MengMeng and Ke Li. MengMeng, who was seriously ill, couldn't extricate himself from missing Ke Li for a long time.
She even imagined that Ke Li's wife had an accident, or moved on, which led to Li Ke being single again …
MengMeng is in the anxiety of unrequited love, and she wants to paralyze herself with all kinds of fantasies. Back to reality, she will be defeated by hopeless reality again.
Perhaps just as our evaluation of ourselves affects unrequited love more than that of others, the real key to this seemingly completely dominated game is actually in our own hands.
That person may be very important to you, but in the end, what bothers you is still only your relationship.
Whether its core is love or hate, whether it returns or brings you happiness or pain, it can make you grow, gain something and become a more perfect person.
Secret love, it is better to see you again!
I hope MengMeng will get out of trouble as soon as possible, pack up and start again!
I am critical Bing, certified consultant of Asia-Pacific Psychological Counselors Association/recommended author of Jane's psychological column/hardcore sales of top 500 IT companies/MBA of China Renmin University.
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