Weight loss methods are also varied, taking drugs, acupuncture, surgery, of course, the effect is not the same, most of the rebound very quickly, in fact, weight loss is a big project, a long time, no perseverance perseverance is not. The method is not appropriate, although the weight down, but the body also collapsed.
Any method of weight loss is actually to let people eat less, not eat. In order to be healthy, only control your mouth, eat less, not eat, have a choice to eat, appropriate exercise, as long as every day to adhere to, slowly will be thin. Of course, this is not thin down on the line, keep more important, only every day, constantly adhere to, constantly strive to have a good figure, only a healthy body. Summarize a sentence is to lose weight to "control the mouth, open legs", this reasoning in fact everyone understands, but why so many people can not go down, can not adhere to it?
A major cause of obesity is the lack of love, do you dare to believe? According to weight loss psychology data research shows that most obese people are because of the lack of love, lack of tolerance, lack of acceptance, if you find that you can not help but always want to eat, in fact, it is not because you are hungry, these food is not what your stomach needs, but to fill your inability to be satisfied, the need for love, and perhaps more important than weight loss is to find a gap in their hearts, although on the surface looks I'm not a big fan of the idea, but I'm a big fan of the idea that you need to be loved and protected deep down inside.
The book Body Pain is Soul Wound says that our relationship with eating is a metaphor for our relationship with our mothers. A baby's first food is its mother's milk, and our initial care and experience of love from our mothers begins with breastfeeding. Mother's milk is more than just a nourishment for the infant; it is a kind of oral and lip stimulation for the child through eating milk and sucking on the mother's nipple.
Psychologically speaking, babies don't play games and have no other way to entertain themselves, so lip stimulation is a source of pleasure for babies and a way for them to feel secure.
At this stage of breastfeeding, the mother's contact with the baby is sufficient, that is, the stimulation he receives is sufficient, and the love and security she gives him is sufficient, so that the child grows up to be psychologically healthy.
On the contrary, if the sense of security at this stage is not adequate, he will be inexplicably anxious as he grows up, and will try to seek some security by all means. Some people will develop anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Such children are also prone to be motivated to degenerate behavior when they encounter some setbacks.
Aggressive behaviors such as smoking, alcoholism, and harsh speech in adults may be due to inadequate lip and mouth stimulation during the infant's breastfeeding period.
People with bulimia like to eat constantly, especially when they are more stressed or depressed, such as love lost, unemployment, etc. Failure to get enough stimulation during the orofacial period is also one of the reasons. In the process of eating, in fact, the stomach is no longer needed, but still will keep eating, in fact, is seeking to stimulate the lips of the mouth to replace the emotional comfort. The infant's emotional access to adequate nourishment from the mother is the basis for the infant's happiness throughout its life.
Perhaps not every woman is pursuing the beauty of thinness, if you love your own fat, but also enjoy the beauty of fat, peace of mind when a fat beauty. And I myself is a fat will be vigilant people, on their own to gain weight this matter, more exclusive, I have always believed that more important than women's clothes is the body, with age, more and more feel bloated body, not only show old, but also on the health of a variety of hidden risks.
But I always thought that women do not pay attention to their own image, more and more fat after the lack of love is an ironclad fact, but never thought that the cause of fat, from the psychological point of view to dig deeper, is actually the lack of love. Originally, the lack of love thing, not the result of obesity, but the cause of obesity.
The author of "I lost 50 pounds," Xu Xu, who gave me a brand new perception of her own 50 years old, through the intervention of psychotherapy, lived out a beautiful self.
At the age of 37, she weighed 150 pounds, and at the age when she knew what she was going to do in life, she managed to lose less than 100 pounds through the right kind of psychotherapy, so that the so-called "good girl is not a hundred pounds," which is a sadistic thing to say, is really achievable in life.
The most important thing is that Xu Xu did not use any weight loss drugs, weight loss drinks, or any weight loss equipment, and what runs through this weight loss process is just a healthy diet and reasonable exercise.
We often say that losing weight is just a matter of "keeping your mouth shut and keeping your legs open", and if you don't find your own deep-seated problems, you'll be able to lose weight again and again, and a lot of people will be discouraged by this and think that they might be too strong in their obesity genes, and are destined to be slimmer, and they'll be denying their own self-discipline and self-management, and they might even doubt their life. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
It seems that this process of repeatedly fighting with weight loss is a process of constantly consuming one's will. But in fact, the willpower needed to lose weight comes from our mental energy. The traumatic experiences that have not been properly dealt with will seriously deplete our mental energy, how can we accumulate the willpower to fight against obesity?
Xu Xu, however, redefines and reinterprets all this in her own way.
She made me believe that losing weight is a woman's life's work and the best way to love beauty and herself.
Xu Xu used her own experience to explain to us that the real success of weight loss is not short-term weight loss at all, but long-term weight maintenance, so as to say goodbye to the obese body.
But if you understand weight loss from another level, weight loss is not just simply to lose weight, it can also promote you to reflect, urge you to see the truth that you do not want to see, to solve the problem you do not dare to face, and that was once obese is really a blessing that God would like to make you grow up with the help of this matter of weight loss. Weight loss is not simple, it is not a battle with fat, but with the inner fear of the front war.
When you understand the matter of weight loss in this way, you will find that, once successful, you must overcome not only accompanied by you can not bear to leave the fat, the most important thing is that, in the process, you have overcome their own hearts, to become a person from the wounds into the light of the people, life from now on began to become a complete, you confident smile behind, not just re-slim figure.
In life, we are too accustomed to fast, we are always in too much of a hurry, quick-fix all kinds of diets, with a variety of gimmicks and our intention to meet, but we are really wrong, wrong in the "lifetime" as "a while" thing.
This is true for weight loss, for marriage, for reading and learning, and for many other things in life.
Xu Xu used her own experience to prove to us that short-term rapid weight loss is a temptation, but also a trap.
Dieting to lose weight is often problematic not because it is in the wrong direction, but because it is too fast. Many women with weight problems have a psychological factor that causes them to put on weight - not being able to distinguish between their own responsibility and the responsibility of others.
For weight loss, true success is the relief that comes with self-acceptance.
That's what is healing for both body and mind, it gives us confidence and the knowledge of the boundaries of our own abilities, not to be hard on others and not to be hard on ourselves. For any goal, including weight loss goals, you can show that you have a firm confidence, but you are not in a hurry to achieve, and all the achievements will come to fruition in this way.
Xu Xu is a person with a story, I did not expect that the brand brought by her family of origin would be so deep. And there are some injuries that really do carry over from one generation to the next. The internal injuries that Xu Xu suffered are also a direct insinuation of her mother's injuries.
If the age of 50 is the watershed between the first half of life and the second half of life, Xu Xu's first half of life is mostly tears and courage fly together! As a healthcare worker's mother, but because of the deep influence of patriarchal thinking, Xu Xu and her sister are quite old, adopted a son home, which undoubtedly makes Xu Xu feel that her mother is insecure about the two daughters.
At that time, Xu Xu, desperately trying to win her mother's attention to themselves, but in such a fight for many years, in addition to crying in pain, just want to eat a good meal to console themselves, this often tired to say the girl, slowly on all kinds of food as their own healing agent.
As a result, in her 30s, she weighed 150 pounds. The good thing is that Xu Xu has a particularly loving husband, no matter how Xu Xu appearance, her husband as always love her y.
Later, through studying psychology, Xu Xu began to face the problems she had been hiding inside herself, and when she went to solve her inner confusion face to face, she realized that the truth that led to her inability to control her appetite was in fact a kind of compensation for her inner dissatisfaction.
All of them will ask Xu Xu a question, is it after losing weight, her husband loves herself more. Xu Xu's expression, from inside to outside are permeated with wisdom and self-confidence: "Compared to the husband's love, I think I love myself feel better it."
Xu Xu exactly how to do thin not rebound it, I sorted out, mainly the following aspects:
1. Learn to betray. For example, Xu Xu for many years in order to get her mother's approval, trying to keep up with her mother in body shape, from the inside of seeking a kind of recognition, so obesity has become a kind of inertia. And now, she realized that this fat, for their own health is not good, while finding the deeper reasons to let their own inner always painful, she began to learn to betray, betray their inner voice of inertia, no longer to look for through the shape of fat and mother similar.
2. 10,000 steps a day. This one will take at least 90 minutes of Xu Xu every day. But this process, but also her and her husband together with the process of deep communication, every day two people walk together, chatting and talking, this walking time has become the most intimate time with two people. Walking together for health, such a way, it is worth every couple willing to love each other to get along, learn and learn.
3. Gratitude journal. Thinking carefully about the happy things in life makes it easier to forgive the faults of others. In her gratitude diary, Xu Xu recorded that she was weak and sickly when she was young, and her mother took care of her day and night. Once when she needed a blood transfusion, her mom insisted on giving Xu Xu her own blood. In retrospect, maybe it was because both Xu Xu and her sister were not in good health that her mom decided to adopt a brother, perhaps because she was really worried that her daughter would not be able to take care of herself in the future. When Xu Xu wrote down those gratitude to her mom, she found herself really relieved.
4. Sleep well. When the effort to let go of the burden in the heart, understand that they have been years and mom's relationship is strained, maybe it is just that mom does not know how to love themselves, after all, mom is also the first time to be a mother, mom also had a wound when she was a child to be so. They can not continue this vicious cycle of bad, thinking, thinking, a lot of things figured out, sleep is getting better and better, the body and mind are getting healthier and healthier.
5. Light fasting. This is actually the most important, every night dinner is best to advance to 5:00 p.m., which actually means that every day 5:00 p.m. to the next day before breakfast, there are more than 12 hours of fasting, please remember to refuse snacks. This is very effective in burning fat. If you have one day a week as a light fast, the results are excellent.
It is important to realize that if you do not control weight loss at the source of your diet, it will basically end in failure.
In addition to controlling meat, eat sensibly, prepare the food for light fasting as early as possible, and concentrate on eating and experiencing the food when you eat. The most important thing is to keep yourself busy, as far as possible will not constantly want to eat. It is through light fasting that Xu Xu really cuts down on her body fat.
Not only that, but I've found that Xu Xu has replicated her success with other people, and they've all achieved remarkable results in terms of weight control and psychological healing.
This is really a boon for people who repeatedly lose weight but get fatter and fatter. I sincerely hope that everyone who reads this article will collect Xu Xu's book "I Lost 50 Pounds" and believe that it must be the best natural weight loss and psychological healing self-help guide you have ever met.