Now more and more girls are reluctant to get married and have children for the following three reasons:

One, the rise of women, the sense of independence is getting stronger and stronger

Since the nineteenth century, women have been able to hold up half the sky. With the development of society, the national economic level, after 90 and 00 women are basically from the campus, most women have a good higher education, the sense of independence is getting stronger and stronger, they come out of society, do not depend on men to survive. Some upwardly mobile women even have a quality of life thousands of times better than men of the same age. In the past, women got married to change their destiny, but nowadays women feel that instead of letting others control their destiny, it is better to rely on themselves to gain a side of peace, and there are indeed a lot of women who do this.

Two, irreconcilable conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, so that modern women are discouraged from getting married and having children

Chinese have a proverb: years of daughter-in-law into a grandmother. A ? Boiled ? word contains a lot of pain and sorrow for the new daughter-in-law. In most ordinary families, it is usually the mother-in-law who makes the decisions, and when the new daughter-in-law comes to the big family, her sovereignty seems to be threatened, and she can't help but feel that the daughter-in-law is the one she is trying to guard against by all means. And then there is the love of the son that is divided into two, and even the mother-in-law feels that the daughter-in-law has done nothing, so why should she take away the love of the precious child that she has worked so hard to bring up. If you meet a man who can maneuver between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may be a big deal, a small matter, but if you meet a husband who is a fool, then the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become a common occurrence. Big data analysis, 30 percent of the divorce are from irreconcilable mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict.

Three, the workplace discrimination against women who get married and have children

Observations from several recruitment platforms show that companies generally favor unmarried women who have not yet had children, and many companies will write this in the recruitment conditions when recruiting employees. Although the national labor law stipulates that there can be no discrimination on the basis of gender, the reality is cruel. Unmarried women who have not yet had children can put all their energy into their work, and enterprises think they can accept overtime work, business trips, etc., while married women who have children will devote their energy to their families, especially to the growth of their children. Secondly, after a woman gets married and has a child, there is a long and difficult period for her career to recover, and many women basically can't survive it. When a woman is pregnant, companies will relatively reduce the work arrangements, in the maternity leave back, the original work is basically replaced, stay stay no fun, they choose to leave, leave that moment, she was in the company all the achievements instantly into nothing, nothing to take away.