Self-talking ones can be about meeting in multiple situations, love at first sight, chance encounters and so on. As the saying goes, a lover's eye is a lover's eye, and most of the self-talking ones are looking at people with a filter. All you see before marriage is the goodness of the other person, and all those flaws are ignored by that goodness.

But after all, marriage is different from love, love when you can love each other, say endless words of love, will find ways to create romance, so there will be a lot of expectations for marriage. The idea is that the days after marriage will be even better than the days when you were in love.

The truth is that love is a romantic affair, but marriage is a trivial affair, and after marriage, a man has to work to support his family and cope with everything in the workplace, as well as possible conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. How can he still care about your feelings everywhere like before marriage? Being cautious everywhere for fear that you will be upset.

Especially some couples, they are free love, there are some mothers-in-law can not see the future daughter-in-law, which also for future mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts buried. If the man will not be able to deal with the conflict between his mom and his wife after marriage, it will create even more conflicts and contradictions.

There are also cases where the man is a mama's boy before marriage, the woman can't see this due to the beauty filter when she is in love, and the man listens to his mother in everything after marriage, which will bring great trouble and conflict to the young couple.

According to big data, the root cause of divorce, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts account for a large part. Because some mothers-in-law have their own guidelines in mind for future daughters-in-law, can't see their son's self-talking daughter-in-law, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict from before marriage began to plant, how can there be a picture of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law harmony after marriage?

So, free love at this point, the contradiction after marriage to be greater.

And the matchmaker introduction is different. Nowadays, matchmakers are usually introduced between relatives, who will automatically recognize the comprehensive conditions of both men and women before they are ready to make a match, no matter whether it is appearance, height or personality and family conditions, as well as the parents' behavior and character, matchmakers will do a weighing in their minds, which greatly avoids some of the contradictions of the young couples after the marriage, and so on, so that the matchmakers give them a demining in advance.

First of all, the two sides of the character, behavior, the matchmaker understand, it is not easy to happen after the wedding suddenly can not accept the situation. It will rarely happen that the man after marriage is a second-rate son, as well as domestic violence and these situations.

Secondly, because of the matchmaker's prior understanding of both parents, there will not be a big gap between the in-laws and each other, especially the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict. Because it is a relative introduced, will certainly first talk to both parents, both parents in the case of consent, the mother-in-law to the future daughter-in-law is satisfied, mother-in-law to the future son-in-law is also satisfied, after the marriage will not have too much mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict. If you meet another mother-in-law or daughter-in-law who is a good talker, the family will surely live in harmony. Of course, self-talking ones also have a mother-in-law or daughter-in-law who can come to terms with things, and there will also be harmony in the situation.