Introduction: You think you have gone through the long-distance relationship, through the parents' opposition, finally as expected into the door of marriage, you can live a happy life of the princess and the prince in general? You think your marriage can withstand the storm will be smooth sailing, NO, your marriage is entirely possible by those trivial chores overwhelmed.

The high divorce rate in China has attracted the attention of foreign media for some time. According to a special report released on judicial big data on divorce disputes: 73.4 percent of the plaintiffs were of female gender.

Domestic violence and extramarital affairs accounted for only 20 percent of the reasons for divorce. In married life, the reason for divorce is no longer just infidelity and domestic violence, but also personality differences and trivial family matters that do not seem to be trivial.

That is to say, what defeats married life is no longer just mistress, money, cheating, domestic violence, cold violence, but also those mediocre and unnoteworthy housework.

01

Cousin Yingzi returned to her aunt's house with her three-year-old son, and was adamant about filing for divorce from her brother-in-law, Liangzi. The aunt began to think that Liangzi has a woman outside, a question did not; Liangzi outside the gambling or make any bad thing, Yingzi also said no. Yingzi said bright son at home too lazy, married for five years, never do housework, come home from work to sit and wait for the meal to eat, after eating the bowl to push away and start playing with the phone. Is that why you divorced Liangzi? What kind of reason is that? I'm telling you, Liangzi is a good man, he makes more money than you, he's honest and generous, he's good to me and your father, he comes home from work, how many other men come home from work nowadays?"

The aunts scolded Yingzi for reading stupidly, being pretentious and selfish, and not thinking about the child's future. In their eyes, Liangzi will smack money, filial piety to them, and do not fool around on weekdays, what else do you want when you meet such a good man? What more do you want from such a good man? Besides, isn't it normal for a woman to do more housework in a family? I've never heard of a divorce because of the small matter of housework, but I'm making a big deal out of it!

"Isn't family life made up of chores? Why is it that women are the nannies and men are the bosses? I don't want to live a life where I have to do the grocery shopping alone, cook alone, do the laundry and dishes alone, clean the house alone, and bring up the kids alone anymore. Married life shouldn't be like this, and this kind of married life is not what I want." Yingzi said. Thinking back to these years after the marriage, Yingzi strengthened her determination to divorce. Every day Yingzi is busy doing housework, the child hugs his legs and cries for his mother to play with him, and Liangzi is either lying on the sofa watching TV or playing with his cell phone.

Yingzi said you get up and accompany the child, the child hugged Yingzi's legs and did not let go, wanting his mother to accompany him and not the father to accompany him. The bright son of two hands, said it is not that he does not accompany the child, but the child does not want him to accompany, continue to play with the phone to go. Yingzi said, "Then you get up and scrub the floor, I will take the child to play for a while." Liangzi looked at the floor and said, "The floor is quite clean, no need to wipe, and is not a star hotel, to be so clean for what." The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers," he said. "The company's goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers," he said.

Every time, Liangzi would say, "If you don't want to do the housework, don't do it, I'm not forcing you to do it. I've never seen a wife like you who wants to fight with someone as soon as she does a little housework."

On one occasion, Yingzi twisted her ankle, and Brighton said that the injury was to a foot and not a hand, and then again, it was just a little bit of housework, and didn't let you go out and do something big. Yingzi dragged her injured foot to take care of the children while still doing the housework as usual. When it is not convenient to go downstairs, Yingzi asked him to buy something, his mouth should be, is not moving, and then shouted two more times, he and Yingzi quarreled. The child saw them arguing, scared and cried out, Yingzi heartache child, try to avoid and bright son quarrel, had to limp to buy their own, resulting in ankle fall sick, as long as a walk more, will be swollen.

In just a few years of married life, Yingzi's sunny mood was tossed into a cloud of gloom by this land of chicken-feathered chores and Liangzi's behavior. The big thing is to leave Liangzi, the big thing is still alone with the children alone to do housework, at least do not have to serve Liangzi do not have to argue with him, the mood can be better.

One person doing housework is not terrible, the terrible thing is that in the marriage obviously you are the mistress, but it was born into a sticker for the nanny. What's even more frightening is that for all of this, men take it for granted and enjoy a grandpa-style life with a straight face.

02

Colleagues Yuan Yuan last year has been in the divorce with her husband, but this year it is a variety of show love, the atmosphere of the transition as dry as a big shift, so that a group of colleagues such as my eye-opening. Divorce is because of housework, now love is also because of housework. Yuan Yuan's husband especially like to play games, a home to play the game, you can play until the early hours of the morning do not move their asses a bit. The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers, so that they can enjoy the best of both worlds," he said.

Every time Yuan Yuan really can't look at it, dragging the tired body hard to clean up, the husband never take the initiative to do housework, even a pair of socks are waiting for Yuan Yuan to come back to wash.

One Sunday, Yuan Yuan came back from a business trip at night, and when she took a shower, she found that the floor drain was blocked, and she asked her husband, who was playing a game, "When was the floor drain blocked? You did not find someone to pass it?"

Husband did not even lift his head and said: "I took a shower at noon on the blockage, you called and said to come back in the afternoon, I'll wait for you to come back."

Yuan Yuan stood in the bathroom where the sewage was accumulating, nothing but anger and deep disappointment, tears instantly fell. But it was just a phone call to find someone to fix it, just a matter of minutes, and still had to wait for herself to come back to do it.

Looking at the time it was not too late, Yuan Yuan called for someone to fix it while looking at her husband who was obsessed with the game, thinking about the life in these few years after the marriage, and the feeling of physical and mental exhaustion hit her like a mountain.

When she went to bed, her husband finally realized that Yuan Yuan had been crying and asked Yuan Yuan what was wrong. The first thing I did was to ask my husband to call him to pass the floor drain, and then he said, "I don't know how to do that. Why was she crying and acting like a shrew? He didn't understand that Yuan Yuan's outburst was due to the fact that she had accumulated too much aggression.

Yuan Yuan knows that when a woman is left alone to go through all the chores of a marriage, under the grinding of the tedious and distracting realities of life, even the most delicate skin will become rough, even the most gentle temperament will become spicy, and even the most spiritual fairy will turn into a spiteful woman.

She was afraid that she would break down in the midst of such year after year of family chores, and turn into that nagging, spiteful woman she once hated the most. So she sensibly filed for divorce.

During the time Yuan Yuan was away from home, her husband, who did not want a divorce, reflected on his behavior. And, because the house was just too dirty and messy for Yuan Yuan to be at home, that's when he started trying to do housework.

It took him a morning to clean up the house, and he couldn't even straighten his back after scrubbing the floor.

This time, he realized that housework was not as easy as he thought. He also probably somewhat understood Yuan Yuan's emotional outburst. He asked Yuan Yuan to forgive him and promised that he would share the housework with Yuan Yuan in the future. Yuan Yuan gave her husband a chance to change his ways and moved back in.

In the past few months, Yuan Yuan has been looking very good and said that her husband has really "rediscovered" his life, and that there is a division of labor and cooperation in the household chores, and that he doesn't let her do the household chores on the days that she is having her period of labor.

Yuan Yuan said: "really strange ah, two people share the housework, do not feel much hard work, but a little bit of life is a little sweet, as if to find the beauty of love again."

03

To maintain the beauty and passion that began with love in married life, in addition to understanding, tolerance and communication, there must be a division of labor in the household chores.

How much of married life can stand up to the wind and waves, but can not carry those small and trivial chores.

After three meals a day, the greasy dishes and stovetop desktop; the laundry can't finish dragging the floor; the children showered on the floor of the meal, and even broken soup bowls; the dirt accumulated in the bathroom; the couch thrown scattered stinky socks ......

These seemingly inconspicuous chores, but is the most cumbersome, boring, and time-consuming, is the most complicated. boring, most time-consuming and mood-consuming, most testing of human will and endurance, but also the most least accomplished thing. It's not just trivial or cyclical.

Many women pay almost all of their time and effort for this, but men always feel that housework is a trivial matter, do more than not worth mentioning, and that these chores should be done by women as a matter of course. If the men share a little, they feel that they are in the extra pay, but also the woman to appreciate.

In fact, marriage is never a fairy tale, it is a reality of real life, which has endless chores. The most important thing is that you have to be able to get the best out of your life, and you have to be able to get the best out of your life, and you have to be able to get the best out of your life.

If the man can not share with the woman, then these trivial life, will kill off the woman's passion for life, so that once the face of the woman into a nagging complaining woman, once the gentle words will become a lion's roar. In the end, it will also be the straw that breaks the back of married life.

For women, the beautiful and moving marriage is not *** enjoy glory and wealth, not endless sweet words, not perfect to everyone's envy, but: there is a man willing to accompany you to assist you and share these chores with you, that is called a life of solid.