Men do not like divorce. Even if they have an extramarital affair, most men will choose to "home red flag does not fall, outside the colorful flag fluttering". This is not a letter to the plum lady, but there are specific data to support. The Supreme Court in 2018 announced the big data of divorce prosecution across the country showed that: 73.40% of the basic requirements of divorce woman proposed, the man took the initiative to divorce only 26.60%, due to extramarital love active divorce, not on 5%.
Good friend Deng Zi's husband is like this: he and his married female colleagues to produce extramarital love, agreed to separate divorce and then establish a new family, but until the colleague clean divorce, he instead played a knockout, and refused to divorce. Dengzi's husband is not an isolated case, there are some men outside the affair a dozen times, but still do not cooperate with the divorce, and even will be to the women clearly proposed divorce, biting back. Cheating men are everywhere, after cheating, want to divorce, only a few. All the same, they only like to steal food, but do not like to wipe their mouths. The psychological state is very simple, is only the following three
02. unwilling to share the wife's assetsDivorce for women, the most difficult is the emotional abandonment, but for men, the most difficult is the division of assets. The Soviet writer Thyssenko once said: "Before deciding to divorce, there is a long, sad, difficult to think about the reasons for the whole process, that is, from the perspective of personal needs, rights, views, values, all-round for their own determination to clearly put forward the basis of the whole process." Divorce is not optimal from the perspective of one's needs, entitlements, and values. In fact most men are more practical and snobbish in their marriages than women. Eighty percent of the reason they are reluctant to divorce is because they are afraid of sharing their wife's assets.
Don't buy into the "I'm still in love with you even though I'm having an affair" lie. Wake up and realize that they just don't want to share their assets with you. They are not willing to give up their houses, vehicles, savings, they are not willing, they are not willing to give up. Literary scholar Yu Dafu once said, "Middle-aged and old-aged life is not allowed to move, as if the rolling stone out of the mountain, the damage is too heavy." Men in middle age, just want to enjoy the freedom of wealth, once the divorce will be "overnight back to the liberation of the former", and how can be willing? They are very smart, and much more rational than women.
And most of the family is all men outside, the woman is in charge, so men think that the capital of the family is my one-handed creation, women at home to look at the children, wash a clothes pants cooking, to share half of the assets?Noway! Amazon founder Bezos divorced with his ex, divided into the ex-240 billion, many of the stench hangers sarcastically said that Bezos lost a lot of money, and the "high price" divorce. Many smelly hangers-on sarcastically said that Bezos had lost a lot of money, and that "high-priced divorces" were not worth it, and that they were even more distressed than Bezos, as if the 240 billion dollars were their money. Although this viewpoint is paranoid, it is also extremely true to the mentality of the vast majority of men.
03. Hard to damage the childRich people divorce or serious loss, the average man can not afford to divorce, can not afford to toss. The house is separated from the house, where to live? Do you want to sleep on the street with your lover? The most critical and children, children are taken by the wife, and then set up a family, their own blood will need to call someone else's father, this they can not endure. Even if you get custody of the child, who will take care of the child? Do you want to spend another penny to hire a nanny? Not long ago, "youth have you" in the quadruplets Shen Bing was exposed to the third party interfered in other people's divorces, the main room then for the derailment of the husband to argue: although he is not a good husband, but he is a good father.
This, put into the vast majority of cheating men's body is applicable. The mantra of many men who have an affair is that the daughter-in-law can be replaced, but the children will always be theirs. Just fully consider that divorce will deprive the child of a complete home, will cause significant emotional damage to the child, and may lose custody of the child, pain in the blood of men will be on the matter of divorce, daunted. Men will be the most thoughtful, no matter how outside the lights, back home immediately honestly into the role of a good father, these aspects, they were born to be a big movie star.