The outer life that people know is called a persona, while the inner life that is not known is called life.
Zhang Yuqi, after last year's "chopping" of her husband, a team of economists successfully built up her persona as an independent woman who said she would divorce, only for her to get back together with her ex-husband within a few months, leading to the collapse of her persona.
And Zhu Yawen is even more because of frequent sunshine baby, resulting in the early hard man persona can not be set up, and now in front of the public image blurred.
The most let me think with the previous is not the same is small s, before the variety show "Kangxi come", her playfulness, humor and funny, let people see her sunshine, positive, not vulgar, as if life in nothing to make her pain and unhappy things.
But in the chat with Song Jia, Song Jia a sentence let her cry, so she also will cry, so she is not the program like the laughter, fearless, but also has a lot of pain and struggle.
Her persona instantly became very grounded and real to people. She has many of the family conflicts that ordinary people have, as well as all the questions and confusion of raising a daughter, and the anxiety and helplessness that women have when they reach middle age.
The persona is not a high and mighty posture, nor is it necessary to pretend to be happy every day to show love. A person other people did not set the image just to show to others, and the real self of those unknown side, is the most important.
A person in front of others to show the non-real self, in the final analysis or false, collapse is not rare.
But you know what? The persona does not only exist in the entertainment industry, it also exists in us, in all aspects of real life.
Ordinary people also have a persona
Some time ago, I watched the "all quite good", almost every character in the drama has been dramatized, only Su Mingzhe let me feel exceptionally real, his love of face is like every man around us like to fill up the big man.
Because he grew up with excellent grades, he has always set up a persona for himself: the pride of his parents and a successful intellectual.
So even when he was unemployed, he was able to offer to pick up his own father to come and live in the U.S. Even when his own finances were stretched thin, he boasted that he would pay for his father's house all by himself.
He has been a school bully since he was a child, or that someone else's child in people's minds, he still has a successful career and a life winning persona,
But when faced with the problem of unemployment, his persona coaxed to collapse.
He forgets all about the reality of his situation in order to preserve his successful persona, and finally attempts to sacrifice the quality of life of his wife and daughter to save face.
Lots of people in life are like this, in order to keep that lofty image in everyone's eyes at a good height, in order to maintain their own unchanging persona in front of others, both at any cost, all kinds of bravado and hypocrisy, wrapped up in themselves.
That even if they are full of fear in their hearts, but also to maintain their own false self-esteem, some people at the table to fight the wine, some people in the mall with all their strength, and even more people in the life of the struggle, just unknowingly lost the real themselves.
They admonish themselves: a strong man, can not cry, can not have a moment of vulnerability; a powerful man, can not live a life of will, can not ride a bicycle to eat roadside stalls; a delicate person,
can not dress casually; a filial son, can not refuse any of his parents' requirements.
Life gives everyone a fixed and unchanging image, positive and full of positive energy, and once some deviation is found, it will not be understood and accepted, and even questioned.
In fact, no matter who it is, growing up from childhood to adulthood, there is a persona.
2. How many masks do people have in their lives? How many personas does a person have in their life?
A father is a boss in the company, a brother at the table, a child when he makes a mistake, a keyboard warrior when he is angry, a child is the class president at school, a son when he comes home, a bully when he meets a weak child, a victim when he meets a crowd.
Our whole life, we can not leave the mask, but also can not take off the persona, because the occasion is not the same, the face of the people are not the same, but take off the mask, we, is still not their own? After wearing the mask for a long time, will the mask become a part of ourselves? What should be the relationship between a persona and a person? And who should the real self be?
In order to go home on New Year's Eve without being "reprimanded" by parents and dyed black their newly made long blonde hair, in order not to be "flaunted" by three aunts and six aunts and begged their best friends to pretend to be their boyfriends to go home on New Year's Eve, in order not to be told by elders that they are not proper, but to be able to wear the masks, we should not wear the masks for a long time. The first thing you need to do is to hide all the red lipsticks, and only bring a gentle bean paste color lip glaze.
We go to the gym every day without running or lifting iron just to take a selfie for half an hour in order to make others feel that we are very healthy, and we go to the gym every day without running or lifting iron just to take a selfie for half an hour in order to make others feel that we are very sunny.
Some boys are afraid that others say they are delicate, even if the sun is peeling off in the summer, do not dare to go to apply sunscreen, some girls are afraid that others say they are neurotic, can only be aggrieved and sadness hidden in the heart not to share with others.
Many women have created an image of themselves as a "good wife and mother", but they are still afraid that getting married and having children will have an impact on their future development. They have created a persona of "I'm married, I'm in love, and society wants to have a second child," but they don't realize how much damage their persona behavior can do to another person who is already happy.
These campaigns invariably convey a message to the public to "be yourself" and "live out your true self". But when it comes to releasing your ego and being yourself, we become reluctant to do so, fearing that showing your true self will make a difference in your life.
No one is born with a perfect persona, no one has a dazzling light source, it's just that they picked the right bulb for their characterization.
The "persona" is everywhere, but don't forget that people have infinite possibilities.
Today's headlines and Shake Shack videos, the more you like something, the more they will solidify your persona for you, until one day you realize that your persona is getting smaller and smaller. But for those who dare to take risks, who dare to break through, this era is full of beauty. Because there are so many ways to go up in this era, we have countless possibilities that can help us reach the other side, as long as you still believe, as long as you are still on the road all the way.
3. Jump out of your persona and live an unrestricted life
Recently, Feng Shaofeng revealed in an interview that Zhao Liying, who has given birth to a child, has become very sensitive.
Not as strong as before, she can't help but cry when she encounters some small things.
On one occasion, when he was breastfeeding his child, he turned around and realized that Zhao Liying was crying, and while crying, he also said to him, "Can you hold the child a little more gently!"
Even some media broke the news that Zhao Liying has suffered from mild postpartum depression.
It is said that mothers who have given birth to a child are on the verge of a breakdown of existence.
Whether you're an ordinary person or a celebrity, pregnancy and childbirth can deal a crushing blow to your life.
Even the strongest woman can be vulnerable at this time.
Zhao Liying's previous image was indestructible, after giving birth, she started to cry, worry about the baby, blame her husband, which is the most normal state of a woman after getting married and having a baby, once detached from the image she portrayed on the screen before that she likes to laugh and is strong and resolute, some people said that she suffers from postpartum depression, making a big deal out of it.
Just ask any girl who doesn't have a history of blood and tears after becoming a mother.
Sometimes in life, one needs to shake off one's previous persona again in order to really see what one really wants? It's only then that you can get reborn and become a better version of yourself.
Today's headlines and those videos on Jieyin, the more you like something, the more they will solidify your persona for you, until one day you realize that your persona is getting smaller and smaller.
But for those who dare to take risks, those who dare to break through, this era is full of beauty. Because there are so many ways to rise in this age, we have countless possibilities that can help us reach the other side, as long as you still believe, as long as you're still all the way there.
There is a very interesting experiment in psychology, if you hold a glass of water in your hand, what do you need to do next? Many of us say drink it, and splash ourselves, and so on.
But the real answer is that you need to do what you want to do, and it has nothing to do with the glass of water. It's actually funny in this day and age because the more labels you have, the easier it is to forget who you are. People only remember your labels and forget that you can be a super individual.
People only know your persona and forget that you can have a rich and wonderful life. It's not scary when people forget, it's scary when you forget what you used to be like too.
It's the best of times and the worst of times for those who are afraid to break out of themselves, and of course it's a bad time, so bad that but wherever you want to live exactly the same life every day, big data immediately reinforces what kind of person you are based on your preferences, based on what you like, so that you will always be that single person.
We all need a "collapse" of our personas, to get rid of the shackles of our "personas", and then to meet with our distant selves.
And that self, perhaps more beautiful.