It is a tradition for Northeastern people to love divorce.
The Northeast has always had a huge population flow. As a major immigrant province where 95% of people are descendants of Shandong and Hebei, it is difficult to have a family that lasts three generations. Population migration has broken the traditional order of rural society, and some traditional concepts are "hard to use" in the Northeast.
In southern provinces with large clans, marriage is regarded as "the good thing about marrying two surnames", and divorce is "the resentment between two surnames". When a couple's relationship is in crisis, both the husband's and natal families will try their best to persuade both parties to make peace and consider peace as the most important thing.
Whereas other places try to persuade peace, the people in Northeast China try to persuade them to break up. "You can get along, but you can't get divorced" is the seven-character motto of Northeastern people on marriage.
Take the "mistress" issue as an example. 80% of Northeasterners choose not to beep and just leave.
It’s not that I don’t hope for the best, it’s just that I don’t feel the need to make do with it.
Why do Northeasterners love divorce so much?
In the Northeast, a fight between a gentleman and his wife usually lasts only three days: if he does not apologize for three days, his parents will come to kill him with knives, shovels, and rolling pins.
"Why can't you live without him? If you can't survive, go home. If I can afford to support you!"
Northeast women have never been afraid of divorce. , they never fight alone.
That’s why couples in the Northeast generally don’t dare to tell their families about minor conflicts. Elderly people in the Northeast are “protective” people. It’s originally a matter between two people, but once the elderly get involved, it turns into a war between the two families. . No matter how cowardly a child is, there is a strong Northeastern lady behind him.
It is not difficult to understand why discord between mother-in-law and mother-in-law accounts for nearly half of the "Big Data on Reasons for Divorce among Northeasterners".
“If you have money to divorce, you have to divorce if you don’t have money.”
In the 1970s, American scholars conducted a survey and analysis on the causes of divorce in 3111 counties and found that urbanization has a negative impact on divorce. The divorce rate has the greatest impact. On average, for every one percentage point increase in the urban population ratio, the divorce rate will increase by 0.41 percentage points.
In Northeast China, the urbanization rate exceeded 50% in 2014, ranking among the top ten in the country.
The high urbanization rate brings about population mobility and creates a large number of industrial families. The direct result is that the employment rate of women is high, there are many dual-income families, and both parties in a marriage are equally capable.
In marriage, economic status determines the right to speak. It turns out that whoever makes more money has the final say in all matters big and small at home, and it is often men who make more money. Nowadays, everyone makes the same amount of money, and it’s not new at all to fall over if they disagree.
Why do Northeasterners love divorce so much?
The second result of urbanization is the increase in "only children". In the past thirty years, the Northeast region, as the eldest son of the Communist Party of China, has implemented the most thorough family planning.
Two only children get married and enjoy the full support of 6 wallets. Whether they are working or getting married and buying a house, they are evenly matched and cannot give in to each other in terms of personality, which makes the tolerance of marriage decrease year by year.
In addition to being unwilling to serve a "spouse", only children are also unwilling to have children.
Data show that the fertility rates of the three northeastern provinces in 2018 were 0.73, 0.74, and 0.75 respectively, which were at the bottom of all provinces in the country, which is a bit lower than the national average of 1.18, and even lower than that of the provinces that are suffering from "low birthrate". Japan is nearly twice as bad.
"No matter what the birth, I can't be responsible for myself, so why should I be responsible for the child?"
It is said that the child is Cupid sent by God, who can make the couple become " "Grasshoppers on a rope" share the same hatred and support each other. Without the "bond" of children, marriage can be divorced at will.
One of the reasons for not having children is that the economic growth rate of the Northeast region has declined in recent years. In response to the economic downturn, "capable" people have no choice but to leave their hometowns to seek better employment opportunities, and this exodus can easily lead to separation of couples.
After all, there are many temptations in the "Flower World". It turns out that the carriages and horses are very slow, and you can only love one person in a lifetime. Now that we have agreed to live together till the end of our lives, he has secretly baked the oil.
Compared to couples who live in long-distance places, the economic downturn is even more of a test for couples who stay in the Northeast.
Poverty magnifies the contradictions in life infinitely. The less money they have, the more aggressive they are in asking for "betrothal gifts". After losing the betrothal gifts, they will be kicked off, forming a vicious cycle in many rural areas in Northeast China. There was a news report that a bride in a rural area in Northeast China required a bride price of 260,000 yuan to get married, and she would get divorced after one and a half years of marriage.
Why do Northeasterners love divorce so much?
It can be said that in the Northeast, if you have money, you have to leave; if you don’t have money, you have to leave.
“Are northeastern women a dynamite barrel? It’s not because of men.”
Economy determines whether we can stay together, and our character determines whether we can continue together.
In terms of personality, some people say that southern women are fire extinguishers and Northeastern women are explosive barrels. But this is not the fault of Northeastern men!
The most unbearable thing for Northeastern women is men’s alcoholism.
As one of the biggest drinkers in the country, Northeastern men (that classmate from Inner Mongolia, please sit down), it is common for them to drink some wine and talk nonsense. It is said that every northeastern daughter-in-law has the experience of politely "picking up" her husband from the wine table, grabbing his ears and stuffing him into a taxi.
Data shows that one out of every five divorce cases in Harbin is caused by the husband's alcoholism.
The last thing Northeasterners should not listen to is Zhou Huajian’s song: Over the years, a person has been married and divorced, will be lonely, will drink too much, and still remember his past wife...
In this regard, Northeastern men I also have my own dissatisfaction.
"Why don't you drink some wine? When was the funding not approved by your wife?"
Why do Northeasterners love divorce so much?
Many Northeastern men have a special reputation outside and can call the shots. But none of the actual money earned is in my hands, and I usually hand it over before I even get started.
Not spending the money you earn in the Northeast with your wife is considered domestic violence. The "Harbin Women's Rights and Interests Protection Regulations" clearly states that economic blockade also falls within the category of domestic violence.
Why do Northeasterners love divorce so much?
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Northeastern people have a hot temper and do not tolerate being wronged. Her generous character is most vividly reflected in the matter of divorce.
There has never been a group of people who divorced so casually, and there has never been a place where divorce was considered so "common."
It must be said that people in Northeast China are too impulsive to divorce, but whether to divorce or not is ultimately a personal choice and a social phenomenon at different stages of economic development.
In 9012, we do not encourage divorce. But marriage should not be the only choice in life.
In fact, Northeastern people do not always encourage divorce but not union.
If I really feel that there is no need to leave, I will come up with the all-purpose golden saying: You have such a bad temper, no one else can stand you!