Firstly, children have grown up, and certain emotions will naturally develop. Along with the physiological and psychological needs, coupled with social influence (enlightenment), it is inevitable that the opposite sex to produce "love feelings". The special feelings between boys and girls are experienced by every adult, because it is more of a "natural property", which is why the Soviet educator Makarenko pointed out that "falling in love cannot be forbidden". The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the actual situation, and you'll be able to see how it's going to play out.
Secondly, there is a lack of lofty ideals and firm beliefs. Due to the booming development of higher education in the country, the expansion of colleges and universities, the phenomenon of the college entrance examination "thousands of horses crossing the one-tree bridge", "the college entrance examination hammer" to determine the fate of the candidates "fade", if the adolescent stage of the phenomenon of the college entrance examination, "fade". ", if adolescent students do not have clear ideals and goals, it is easy to lose motivation to learn, easy to be affected by the impact of adolescent growth.
Third, the family environment. Students in adolescence lack of communication with their parents, do not get parental care and understanding, they are easily impressed by the concern of the opposite sex of the same age, fell into early love.
Fourth, the influence of literary works. There are many students by part of the literary works of those wind and snow, lingering romantic influence, keen singers, movie stars and other lace news, learn by ear, subtle, the pursuit of curiosity, the simple imitation of love behavior.
Fifth, the family and the school ignored the students moderate sexual knowledge and sexual ethics education, there are adolescent students due to varying degrees of sexual confusion, sexual anxiety, and do not get the family, the school's concern and understanding, resulting in students produce a strong rebellious mentality.
Now teachers and parents face the attitude of early love is quite worrying, the media exposure of a case more people think: teachers and parents how to do? For example, the Qingdao Evening News reported in April 2004 that "two children disappeared due to early love problems were discouraged by their teachers". "Early love" was found by the classroom teacher, Jimo three students were not only asked to write a pledge, and at the same time was told that either automatically withdrawn from school or be ordered by the school to withdraw, unbearable pressure of the two students to leave school and run away. Yunnan Xuanwei a middle school girl "was public corporal punishment
Early love storm crushed the girl", class teacher due to learn about the "early love" problem, public corporal punishment, resulting in a small month mental disorder; Chifeng City, Inner Mongolia. Early love is blocked daughter schizophrenia
Murdered pro-daughter parents were arrested", four years ago, the daughter was blocked by her parents because of early love, suffered from schizophrenia, the parents were overwhelmed by their tired, and even the biological daughter strangled to death. Early love is the product of many aspects, I think we should start from a few aspects:
First, help parents correctly view their children's early love. At present, 80% of young people with "early love" behavior with parents improper education or parental relationship problems related to, therefore, to prevent children from appearing real "early love" should start from the parents. According to the Green Apple Hotline's adolescent psychological counseling in the past two years, the hotline has received thousands of phone calls in recent years, all of which were about "early love" and other ideological problems. The majority of the calls were from children reflecting that their parents were unable to communicate with them and that they had become rebellious or vindictive, or that they were seeking the warmth of the opposite sex because of family problems. Among them, the majority of cases of "early love" were due to family breakups, parental discord, and prolonged absence of parents. After learning about their children's early love affairs, parents should not let their children carry psychological baggage, because love is determined by hormones that we cannot control, and has nothing to do with morality or age. Usually, we should make the children feel that their parents are close to them and confide in them, so that they can relax, and naturally, they will not only put their minds on a certain friend of the opposite sex.
Second, to help the early love of secondary school students correctly view early love. As early love with hidden and mysterious, some early love of secondary school students are often in private contact and contacts, they themselves have a sense of guilt, afraid of being parents and teachers know, which is very unfavorable to their healthy growth. Class teachers and parents should let children know that early love is certainly not right, but once it happens, it is not doing anything bad or wrong. A person loves others and is ...... >>
Question 2: What causes early love Definition of Early Love There is no universal understanding of this issue, nor is there a convincing professional definition of how early is early love. The situation is even more different from country to country. In China, it is generally considered that relationships that start earlier than the university years (about 18 years old) or before the appearance of secondary sexual characteristics (about 12 to 14 years old) are considered as early love. There is also no broad **** understanding of the extent to which a relationship is considered to be early. It is generally recognized that the development of affection for the opposite sex is considered to be early love. However, in this sense, adolescents due to normal physiological and psychological development caused by the love of the opposite sex is categorized as "early love", obviously unscientific. The scientific nature of the term "early love" Some emerging educators, psychologists and students believe that the term "early love" is not scientific. Because teenagers in puberty accelerated development, the appearance of secondary sexual characteristics, and gradually sexual maturity, physiological and psychological have adult trend. Therefore, the opposite sex have a good feeling is a common situation in adolescence, is the physiological and psychological development of the inevitable, should not be used "early love" such a sense of *** colorful words to describe, so some people think that "early love" should be called "Adolescent love". Characteristics of Early Love From the various situations of early love to look at, early love usually have the following four kinds of characteristics: hazy adolescents for the development of the end of early love is not clear, early love of adolescents only desire to contact with the opposite sex alone, and the future of the formation of the family, dealing with the relationship between love and school, and the difference between friendship and love and so on lack of a clear understanding of the problem. Contradictory The teenagers who fall in love at an early age are full of contradictions in their hearts. They want to have contact with the opposite sex they like, but they are also afraid of being found out by their parents. It can be said that the process of early love is both pleasant and painful. For those who have a crush, this ambivalence is also manifested in the contradiction of whether to declare love to the admirer (confession). Mutability Friendships are full of change and highly unstable because adolescents often lack the skills and experience to deal with interpersonal relationships, resulting in a lack of mutual trust between the two parties; relationships are generally not sustainable. As a result, relationships are often difficult to maintain and often cause psychological distress to both partners. Differences There are obvious differences in the behavior of adolescents in early love. In terms of behavior, they are extremely secretive, communicating their feelings through letters, phone calls or the Internet, and engaging in secret private communication and emotional exchanges that are difficult for parents and teachers to detect, but there are also teenagers who are open about their relationships, appearing in pairs on many occasions. In terms of degree, most of the early lovers still mainly exchange their feelings or play together; in terms of interpersonal relationships, they generally do not go beyond normal friendships, but some of them develop very deep relationships, and in addition to exchanging their feelings, they sometimes even have sexual relationships. In terms of age preference, girls usually prefer boys who are older and more mature than themselves, while boys usually prefer girls who are younger than themselves and reflect their masculinity in their relationships. Some psychologists believe that when age is equal, girls take the initiative, but in practice, it is more often the boy who takes the initiative. This is not yet conclusive. Types of Causes of Early Love The main types of early love can be categorized into the following eight types: Amor type This type of early love occurs when adolescents fall in love with each other due to mutual admiration for each other. This type of early love is very common, and according to the different reasons for adoration, it can be divided into the following three categories: Instrumental This type of early love is due to the adoration of the other party's external instrumentation, and it is also the most common, but the most difficult to be sustained and stabilized. This is the most common, but the most difficult to sustain and stabilize. In schools, there are always handsome boys and pretty girls who are highly respected by the opposite sex, which contains this factor. Specialty This is an early love affair that arises out of a love for a particular ability or specialty of the other person's that he or she holds in high esteem. The girl often takes the initiative in this type of early love. Character This type of early love is due to the love of the other side of some of their own respected character, which in comparison to the maintenance of a longer period of time. Curiosity This type of early love is caused by curiosity about the opposite sex. It is a psychological phenomenon of adolescents to be curious about the body, life, psychology, and attitude of the opposite sex as their sexual consciousness continues to develop. Adolescents are prone to sexual impulses and thus maintain a sensitive attitude towards the opposite sex and make friends of the opposite sex to satisfy this curiosity. Imitation This is the phenomenon of early love due to the imitation of behaviors in the society, film and television works and newspapers and books. This is the phenomenon of early love due to the pressure from the surrounding peers. For example, a relationship that does not exist may be fabricated by people around you as a "rumor" or a "scandal". In such an environment, under the pressure of public opinion, it is easy to fall in love with them. Pleasure type Adolescent men and women as classmates or even at the same table, due to more communication and information transfer, will produce a more detailed and thorough understanding of each other ...... >>
Question 3: What is the reason for girls to fall in love early Nowadays, girls will fall in love early, there are two main reasons, the first is because they think that they "have reached the age", which is a psychological sense of self-identity, the current era is not as conservative as in the past, the theme of love is filled with the life. Life, of course, young people are very susceptible to influence, so they are eager to fall in love, this is the second reason, that is, the desire to fall in love, early love this situation in the eyes of adults may seem a little ridiculous, after all, is not old enough, the mind is still immature ah, but in their world, this is extremely normal, they think of love is free and independent, and is not subject to the control of the adults, but also because they do not know the exact depth of love, but also because they do not know the exact depth of love. They do not know what love really is in depth, the responsibility and commitment of love, and even the pain and choices that must sometimes be faced. ...... These they do not understand, is to hold a beautiful fantasy to try, early love is a good thing bad, in fact, but also depends on what type of people,
Question 4: About the students produce "early love" reasons, your analysis is: 30 points Youthful children are always on the love of ignorance. The more parents and teachers say no, the more mysterious they feel, the more they want to try. Also, there is the fact that kids have little to no rejection ability themselves. They will feel that someone liking is something worth showing off, and after that they will fall in love early.
Question 5: 1. The difference between normal hetero *** relationships and early love? 2. The reasons for early love? 3. How to normalize the relationship with the opposite sex? The phenomenon of early love is in the youthful period of restlessness of young boys and girls to the opposite sex of curiosity and not really like, now the times are different, the network world of all kinds of temptation even adults can not avoid let alone the children, may be for the parents of the generation of people in the eyes of the middle school age even holding hands is a blush heartbeat, and in this era of the network, a lot of children in order to find the *** and the feeling of freshness may be very early to experience the first kiss or even the first night. The first kiss or even the first night. In the age of big data, teenage boys and girls can easily get porn. This is also a direct result of children's early maturity. In the movie "this killer is not too cold" in the 13-year-old heroine Martina said a line:Many of my classmates' first *** are not happy, because they are just to show off.
Question 6: What is the root cause of early love in junior high school The root cause of early love in junior high school is: the body and mind began to develop and lead to the curiosity of the opposite sex, good feeling.
1, the child began to enter puberty, the development of the body so that this stage of the opposite sex have a good feeling is normal, if not that is a problem.
2, the child began to enter puberty, psychological development, began to have curiosity about the opposite sex, most of the time the child is only on the other side of the hazy good feeling.
Question 7: From the physiological point of view to analyze the causes of early love As a result of the general improvement of living standards, adolescents and young people's physical fitness is also generally strengthened, compared with their peers in the past, they develop faster, sexual maturity is also ahead of time, for example, there are girls eleven or twelve years old to menstruation. Due to the gradual development of organs, secondary sexual characteristics begin to show, coupled with the secretion of a large number of sex hormones in the body, prompting the gradual maturation of their sexual functions. The maturity of sexual function naturally catalyzes their attention to the opposite sex, the opposite sex of the hazy desire to get close to, but also increased the possibility of early love. Besides, most teenagers have a strong sense of curiosity, what all want to know, what all want to try, because the concept of right and wrong is not strong, can not distinguish what is "friendship", what is "early love", driven by curiosity and mystery, some of them want to go to explore the secret, and even the forbidden fruit. The first time I saw this, I was able to see it in the back of my head.
Question 8: The pros and cons of early love Early love, also called adolescent love, refers to the underage men and women to establish a romantic relationship or interest in the opposite sex, infatuation or crush. In China, the term "early love" with the elders on the side of the negative sexy *** color, generally refers to the love between young people under the age of 18, especially in the school of primary and secondary school students for more.
The act of early love is the practice of adolescents on the basis of sexual physiological development, but also psychological transformation into behavior. However, in China, it is generally believed that early love will bring a lot of problems, such as affecting the physical and mental health of adolescents and academic performance, especially for girls is more obvious and prominent, but generally does not have too serious impact. Early love often ends in failure, rarely appear early love can be a lifelong relationship; some people believe that early love is a teenager on the exploration of male and female relationships and learning, for the future of love and marriage in preparation, should not be too much prohibition or repression.
Definition of early love
On how early is early love, there is no general understanding of this issue, and there is no convincing professional definition. The situation is even more different from country to country. In China, it is generally believed that a relationship earlier than the college years (about 18 years old) should be regarded as early love, or before the appearance of secondary sexual characteristics (about 12-14 years old) is regarded as early love.
There is also no broad *** knowledge about what level of early love is considered. It is generally believed that the development of love for the opposite sex is considered early love. But in this sense, adolescents due to normal physiological and psychological development of the opposite sex of the adoration is categorized as "early love", obviously unscientific.
The scientific nature of the term "early love"
Some emerging educators, psychologists and students believe that the term "early love" is not scientific. Because teenagers in puberty accelerated development, the appearance of secondary sexual characteristics, and gradually sexual maturity, physiological and psychological have adult trend. Therefore, the opposite sex to have a good feeling is the general situation of adolescence, is the physiological and psychological development of the inevitable, should not be used "early love" such a sense of *** colorful vocabulary to describe, and therefore there are people for the "early love" should be called "adolescent love". The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of the night, and I was in the middle of the night.
Characteristics of early love
By the early love of the various situations together, early love usually have the following four characteristics:
Misty
Teenagers for the development of the end of the early love is not clear, early love of young people is only the desire to contact with the opposite sex alone, and the formation of the future of the family, dealing with the relationship between love and study, the difference between friendship and love and other issues are not clear understanding. All lack a clear understanding.
Contradictory
Early love is full of contradictions in the heart of teenagers, both want to contact with their favorite opposite sex, but also afraid of being found out by their parents. It can be said that the process of early love is both pleasant and painful. For those who are secretly in love, this contradiction is also manifested in the contradiction of whether or not to declare love to the admirer (confession).
Variability
Friendships are volatile and unstable because teenagers often lack relationship skills and experience, resulting in a lack of mutual trust; relationships are generally not sustainable. It is this that often causes psychological pain on both sides.
Differences
There are significant differences in the behavior of teenagers who fall in love early. In terms of behavior, they are extremely covert, passing on their feelings through letters, phone calls or the Internet, and engaging in secret private communication and emotional exchanges that are difficult for parents and teachers to detect, but there are also teenagers who will open up about their relationships and go out in pairs on many occasions.
In terms of degree, most of the early lovers are still mainly exchanging feelings, or playing together; in terms of interpersonal relationships, generally no more than normal friendships, but there are some early lovers relationship develops y, in addition to exchanging feelings, and sometimes even have sexual relations. In terms of age preference, girls usually prefer boys who are older and more mature than themselves, while boys usually prefer girls who are younger than themselves and reflect their masculinity in their relationships. Some psychologists believe that girls take the initiative when their ages are equal, but in practice it is more often the boy who takes the initiative. This is now inconclusive.
Types of causes of early love
Types of early love can be summarized into the following eight types:
Amor type
This type of adolescents is due to the phenomenon of mutual adoration for each other and early love. This type of early love is very common, and according to the different reasons for adoration, can be divided into the following three categories:
Instrumental
This type of early love is due to the adoration of the other side of the external instrumentation, and it is the most common, but it is most difficult to sustain and stabilize. There are always handsome boys and pretty girls in school who are highly prized by the opposite sex, and this is a factor in it.
Specialty
This is due to the love of the other side of the ability or expertise that they admire and produce early love. This type of early love is often initiated by the girl.
Character-based
This type of early love is due to the love of the other side of some of their own respected character, which is relatively long-lasting.
Curious
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Question 9: Is early love really good for girls? 10 points There is no benefit. There are two reasons: one is that girls are naturally sentimental and emotional, with weak self-control. Once in love, they will be addicted to, so that the original normal study life affected, and seriously even change their destiny; Secondly, early love is often a kind of projection of their own emotions, the girls are often more blind than boys, can not objectively look at their own and each other, and the result will usually end up in a breakup. This will bring harm to the girl's mind to the extent that it affects her healthy outlook on relationships and, possibly, future relationships and marriages. It is normal and very beautiful for girls to harbor hazy feelings for the opposite sex during adolescence. -Eating the forbidden fruit of early love can destroy these beauties. The real first love is best left until after college, when one's mindset is relatively mature and independent to enjoy sweet love.
Question 10: What kind of people are prone to early love? Generally speaking, people with extroverted personality and outstanding appearance are more likely to fall in love early than those with introverted personality and mediocre appearance. Because of the extroverted character of most people dare to do, dare to break the school rules, do not rest on their laurels, there are suitable for their own object, will be boldly pursued, and the outstanding appearance of the person, often is the target of the pursuit of everyone, especially the beautiful young girls, often can not withstand the pursuit of other people, they are proud to be adored by the boy, listen to sweet words, and soon fell into the boy's love net.
Favorite literature, literary and artistic talent students are prone to early love. These students due to the environment, rich in feelings, sentimental, like to use the book, the song in the romantic plot to analogize their own lives, emulate the artist's pen hero, the pursuit of ideal love world. They are often envied by the opposite sex because of their talent, so it is very easy to get the message of love.
Students with weak character and strong vanity are prone to early love. This part of the people to girls, they grew up pampered, dependent on the strong, looking for a boyfriend, they feel relied on, they attach themselves to a boy, therefore, it is easy to become a boy's love captive. And those girls who have strong vanity, mostly due to strong vanity, so that they are happy to accept the boy's attentiveness, praise and small favors. Some students are out of the "comparison" mentality, and embark on early love. They see their peers have boyfriends, in and out of the cinema, dance halls, pubs, etc., so, also not willing to lag behind.
Students with poor academic performance are more likely to fall in love early than those with good grades. These students are often not welcomed by teachers, in the study of very little special care, but also can not put the emotional energy on the study, and thus will not get pleasure from the study at all, so they will have nowhere to spend their energy and time to turn to love, turn to the community, to make up for the emotional emptiness. Most of these students do not take the class as the pursuit of the target, especially girls, often looking for social youth.