In many people's cognition, when looking for a partner, women generally tend to look for their peers, or older than themselves. In recent years, this cognition has been gradually broken. In more and more film and television dramas, there is a sweet sister-in-law love. In real life, the number of sister-in-law love is gradually increasing. Last year, the proportion of marriage registration was nearly 4%, but women were older than men. Compared with the past, it has to be admitted that the number of brother-sister love is rising day by day. Even, the younger a man is, the more he doesn't reject sibling love, and thinks that age is not a problem. There is more and more love between brothers and sisters, which seems unusual, but there is nothing hard to understand. ? Women are becoming more and more independent and have more choices. In the previous era, most women needed to depend on men to survive, so in marriage and love, there were not many choices, only parents' orders. According to the words of matchmakers, according to other people's ideas, most women could only marry men older than themselves. With the progress of the times, in today's era, women are also receiving higher education and have the same ability to support themselves. When a woman has become independent enough both ideologically and economically, she will be more attractive and have more rights to make choices about her feelings. She can choose someone who is much older than herself, or someone who is similar to herself. Similarly, she can choose someone who is slightly younger than herself, even if it is much younger. In the relationship between marriage and love, whether men or women, strength has always been particularly important. Without strength, no matter who you are, you may not have many choices, but when you are strong enough, the range you can choose will really be much larger, and the objects you can choose will really not be so limited. ? Many young men prefer mature women. For men, there is actually a child living in every man's heart. For a slightly older woman, her maternity will be more obvious. Not only that, her maturity and elegance are unmatched by many younger girls. In this way, many men will have an inexplicable affection for a slightly older woman, thinking that such a woman has certain experience and mature mind, and can give herself some guidance without doing that, which will be very good. After all, at present, everyone's life is not so easy. When a person makes money, he has already tried his best and exhausted all his strength. Then in marriage and love, he certainly hopes that he can relax. At this time, compared with always taking care of an immature woman, all kinds of needs need to take care of each other's emotions. With a sister, the other party can take care of himself in many ways, but he certainly wants it. Whether you are in love or getting married, love accounts for a large part. We feel comfortable getting along with each other, which also accounts for a large part. Everyone is the same. Love is to make life better, not to make ourselves more miserable. ? Both men and women are more sober and understand that this is a candidate. In the past, many women always thought that finding an older man would make him know how to love himself better, but reality has repeatedly told women that an older man may not hurt others, and may even be unwilling to show his sincerity at all. So later, when women know more about maintenance and men don't care so much about age, they just think that it is most important to be suitable for each other. Women also begin to become more and more sober and begin to understand that age is not so important, but talent is the most important. At this time, men are more willing to find someone who is like-minded, can attract themselves, is more comfortable with themselves and struggles with each other than always thinking about finding a younger one to spoil each other. The same is true for women. Compared with blindly thinking about finding an older person, she is more willing to ignore the physical age, but pays more attention to the psychological age of the other person. What she wants to find is a mature person who is willing to love herself. In life, many men, even in their forties and fifties, may not be mature in heart and responsible in behavior. Some men, even in their early twenties, are wise enough to understand the word responsibility. When both men and women begin to understand that character is more important, character is more important, and sibling love is naturally easy to occur. ? Some people will always say that it is very unreliable that women are older than men when they are in love with their brothers and sisters. But in fact, no matter what kind of love is good, it is equally reliable and unreliable. People are wrong, even if men are much older than women, women don't feel any love at all. People are right, even if women are several years older than men, they can still be very happy. Never, it is not feelings that are unreliable, but people. In the relationship between marriage and love, there is nothing wrong with choosing the same age, the older one or the younger one. Everyone can choose from his heart according to his own ideas and opportunities. The key is to choose the right people, and after choosing them, we should manage them well.