Once someone asked himself this question: "If you have been around very good people, now become and ordinary people, you will be a kind of what kind of feeling?" When hearing this question the first reaction is: "There should not be such a thing happen, excellent people should always be excellent, there is no such thing as a family fall, because they they are very high on their own requirements, in the eyes of others, he is an excellent person, at the same time, he himself will be higher on their own requirements."

It should be a very small probability that someone who was once good becomes less good.

But unfortunately, this kind of low probability of things, happened in their own bodies, think of the previous paragraph received a good friend's phone, although a long time no contact, but he can still remember. The two of us are very good friends in college, their grades are average, but he is the class bully. To their own kind of feeling is that their own test on the 985 colleges and universities is to make a nine bulls and two tigers, but for him, the test on the 985 famous school can be said to be a game, looks very easy.

Year after year, the class and the school, as well as the national scholarship, is a typical "other people's children", whether it is professional knowledge ability, or in the school's popularity, are one of the best, with the word "excellent" to describe, are a little bit of underestimation of him.

After graduation, choose to go to Beijing to fight, with their own ability is also successful into a business unit, doing their favorite media publicity aspects of the work, the work of the first 2 years is also smooth to take the Beijing account, thought that finally in Beijing such a city can stand half a foot, but the reality is so cruel, the life of the time to come, it will not give you more than a second to prepare time. The company's website has been updated with the latest information about the company's products and services.

We'll call my friend Xiaowu for now, the fourth year of work, see promotion and salary increase is not much hope, Xiaowu began to lose confidence in their own work, a lot of time are considering and hesitation in the end to resign and change profession, during this period to me to call more than 10 times.

Because the unit as a whole to control costs and payroll expenses, resulting in Wu's own rating is hopeless, from the primary to the intermediate title, there will be a 1500-piece increase in wages, from the beginning of the monthly salary of 4500 across the rise in monthly salary of 6000, for the work of four years for the Wu, in fact, the rating is very important for their careers, because they are not just joining the job, but they are not just a freshman, for three years of work, the rating is very important for their career. Freshers, for three or four years of work for him, career advancement is very important for his career, and in accordance with normal expectations, he should be able to increase his salary, but the reality is so caught off guard.

What is even more unexpected is that because the company is busy with the transformation and upgrading, in the two years he stayed in the benefits have been declining, the company also canceled the original meal allowance, car allowance, rental subsidies and other benefits, seven or eight add up to a ****1000, so that the final wage they can get their hands on all of a sudden fell to 3500 yuan.

Four years of hard work, wages from 4500 yuan down to 3500 yuan. Although the head of the 985 halo, but before the excellent, now he does not seem to be so good, at least will make himself feel that 985 graduates are absolutely not allowed to take only 3500 yuan of wages.

Small Wu came to find himself and a few small partners to drink, while talking about the company's bad words, while confiding in their own incompetence, "work these few years down, do their favorite work, thought there will be any development and achievement, but now realize that now they will only be buried in the head of the leadership to write documents, write speeches, looks like what will be, miscellaneous The work of everything to do, in fact, nothing."

Because of the decline in wages and the pressure of life, Wu has also tried to increase the income of a number of side business, Xiaohong book, public, writing for cash, etc. have tried, but see a few months can not see a few dollars of revenue, they have given up.

While drinking, Wu said, "Now brush the circle of friends to see, and they were all graduated, who will be worse than themselves, hard work for four years, no processing wages even if, in turn, I was given a pay cut, the thought of this is angry."

In his own eyes, in fact, Wu has always been synonymous with excellence in his own heart, if not for this phone call, I thought he had flown the coop and could not see us working class.

So, back to the question above, why is it that people who used to be good are not good now? Why don't good people stay good? How expensive and costly is it to stay good?

It is remembered that Luo Zhenyu's 2019-2020 New Year's speech and such a sentence, the meaning of which is probably like this: "After the easy money is gone, want to make money we have to do more difficult things." What does this sentence mean, in fact, to put it simply, is that the threshold for making money has increased, everyone's ability and skill level has increased, and the people who steal your job with you have become more and more professional, naturally, money is also more and more difficult to earn.

Specialization of competitors' skills to enhance the threshold of excellence is getting higher and higher

Previously, we feel that as long as the Tsinghua University, Peking University, 985 such schools, is a representative of excellence, the future life basically do not have to worry about, but the fact is that even if such students, in the face of the time to go to the community to employment, will continue to feel low self-esteem, feel that their own abilities The fact is that even such students, when faced with the prospect of taking up employment in society, still feel inferior, feel that their abilities are not as good as others, feel that their values are not realized, and even feel lost.

A pair of Beijing parents had a conversation in which one of them showed off his muscles and said, "Look, my child is 4 years old, and now he has mastered 1,500 English words, what do you think?" The other parent replied, "Well, mastering 1,500 words at age 4 may be enough in the United States, but it may not be enough in Haidian District."

The children of many of our families are placed in a variety of competitive environments throughout their lives, with remedial classes in language, math, art, music, sports, painting, harmonica, and so on. Parents, while taking their children between the major cram schools, lamented on the sidelines, "Hey, it's not easy for kids nowadays, they have to learn so many things at such a young age."

This time, he had a thought in his mind: if he had a child in the future, he would not give him such a big burden, so that he can grow up happily, we had no tutorials at that time, and still managed to get into a good university, learn or not learn in fact, in the school's time is already enough.

But on the other side of the friend said: our time, most people's family conditions are not very good, can not afford to go to the cram school is the majority of hard work, hard work and a little bit of hard work and there is a possibility to change their fate, but look at the children now, the family conditions are not bad, in order to think of their own children do not lose in the starting line, in the cultivation of the child's ability to be on the way to put in more and more resources, we all in the

Previously, I was impressed by the educational remarks of Beijing Haidian mother and Shunyi mother, which were hotly discussed by everyone.

Haidian district mothers, let the child go to school, and Shunyi mothers, let the child to participate in international, European and American summer camps, learning horseback riding, golf, relative to the Haidian district mothers, Shunyi mothers for the child's cultivation of the goal is higher, consider the longer term

Friends even flirted with their own sentence: "If you take that year and them, are you still better than them?"

Career development lies in choosing the right industry and consolidating oneself

They have always had the notion that a person who wants to obtain his own expected growth can not be separated from the industry he chooses, and even more inseparable from his own efforts, and needs to constantly go to the consolidation of himself.

For personal growth, it is important to choose a flourishing importance of the reform and opening up of the dividends of the early batch of entrepreneurship after the 80s has now enjoyed the dividends of the times, has now become a giant and unicorns in various industries. Sometimes it is not how strong the ability of these people, many times just dip the dividends of the times.

Wang Jianlin, chairman of Wanda, once said, "What Tsinghua and Beida are not as good as guts." But it is clear that in today's social and market environment, this sentence is actually not correct, in the era of Wang Jianlin, perhaps make the brute force forward is right, but nowadays entrepreneurship nine deaths is the norm, this sentence is actually not what is too much to learn from the significance.

Compact life means that in the same length of time, the more you do, the more you learn, the more your experience and experience will become richer and richer, and the more you build up, the more you will be able to compact your own life, and the more you will be able to realize one small goal after another on your own life path.

Every day seems to be a little bit of progress, in the accumulation of time and witness, will be quantitative to qualitative change, which is why the same every day are 8 hours, why some people all the way up, why some people always stay put.

Because of the epidemic, many working people's vacations were extended indefinitely, I do not know when to work, many people in this period of vacation life is very full, even if there is no work on the trouble, will go to use the time to enrich themselves, reading, learning, charging themselves, in fact, to open the gap between people and the people is that these bits and pieces of self-study time, people in the hard to learn, and try to improve their own ability and do things efficiently, improve skills, while you are playing games, one to enjoy mixing life, how can become that want to become a person?

Take a good friend Wu's work, in fact, his work is relatively easy, basically nine to five work, usually overtime will rarely see, the morning can step on the point to go to work, at noon there is nearly an hour and a half of time to rest, a lot of people in the cafeteria before the opening of the meal half an hour before they went down. According to Wu's feelings, in such a unit, you do not need to go all out, nor do you need to go all out people, many people are in the mix, mixing wages, every day to go to work and leave work in fact is to be able to feed themselves and their families only, every month waiting for the payroll on time is good, why do you have to work so hard? Why work so hard? Desperation may also be treated as an alien here.

Ma Yun once said: because believe, so see, so there is now Alibaba, a very inspiring story is a courier boy with their own efforts, in Hangzhou to realize the purchase of a house and a car, so we have to tell you is that, no matter what position, as long as you keep a want to progress, do not slack heart, even if in the realization of the goal of the road you go very slowly, but one day! , you will walk faster than the vast majority of people, because on the road to success, many people are either standing still, or halfway, and you do not backward.

Life's biggest problem: understand yourself, see yourself

They have seen a wide range of discussions on the term "platform capacity", which is a phenomenon that is probably the result of the fact that we always think that we will have enough hard power to support ourselves to this point in an industry and career development to a certain extent, and that we will be able to jump and resign. There is enough hard power to support their decision, to take a very simple example: a salesman who earns 20,000 dollars a month in Shanghai, thinks that after he resigns and goes back to his hometown to develop, it should be easy to find a job that earns more than 10,000 dollars a month.

But the reality tells us that such a situation is rare, so the word "platform capacity" gradually appeared in everyone's field of vision, the monthly income of 20,000 sales in Shanghai, Shanghai may have a stable customer resources, networking resources and relationship networks, but once you leave the city, it is obvious that these resources he can not take with him. resources he can't take with him.

More often than not, our so-called hard power is actually not "grow on their own flesh", most of the time it is the platform to give, is the industry you are in the field, the position, the circle of people, the city environment and so on. So this time, a clear understanding and understanding of their own positioning is very clear, not only to help themselves to make the right career planning, more not easy to be above the said "ability to trap" deceived.

A person's real career ability to improve, is you leave a city, a place not to be affected, just like reading a diploma, with a high degree certificate, your employment threshold is higher than others, which is really their own can take away the "hard power", don't overestimate yourself, especially in the case where you think you have a little success, but also in the case of the "hard power". Don't overestimate yourself, especially when you think you are successful, think clearly about leaving some things, can you continue to maintain excellence? If not, stay humble and recognize yourself.

Maintaining excellence itself is a very difficult thing, the social division of labor refinement, resulting in every aspect of the work of the threshold increased, the cost of excellence is getting higher and higher.

So, how can you keep yourself excellent? To give you a few suggestions

One, the choice of industry, find the right opportunity, can long-term development of the industry in order to have the opportunity to show their

Many times, the choice is greater than the effort, choose a good industry, can play a multiplier effect, choose a good industry, to a large extent, determines the development of your future, a good cornerstone, in order to help you stand on the shoulders of the giants! A good cornerstone to help you stand on the shoulders of giants to see the world. In the era of our parents' generation, the banking industry was famous for its meat and potatoes, but now it seems that every second someone wants to quit. Seizing the dividends that the times have given the industry and playing to your strengths is key.

Two, emerging industries are favored, but do not blindly follow

In recent years, for the emerging industry 5G, big data, artificial intelligence and other fields, high salary recruitment of talent news constantly, the government and the state has also begun to show good to these industries, have come out of the relevant welfare policies, emerging industries are favored. These two years since the media is also very hot, we can see a variety of social software through writing, shooting video earned how much how much money, to achieve financial freedom, on the pinnacle of the success of the example, so many people head into the new media to do content, the end result is that the talent is two empty, the staff left, the company lost money.

Now this era is not rely on a single bold can fight alone in the world.

There are times when you feel even good opportunities, may want to think down to take a look, think before making a decision is not too late, this era is never short of piggybacking, never short of blind people.

Three, recognize yourself, is the first step to start anything

Remember Luo Zhenyu New Year's Eve speech and so a paragraph, if you can answer these questions, that in the realization of the freedom of wealth is certainly not a problem, the first to understand who they are? The second understand what you are doing? Third, understand who you do it for? Fourth, understand that others need you to do so? Fifthly, I understand that after all these, the society has changed for the better.

In fact, behind the five questions, is to let everyone understand a truth: to understand their own positioning and the true value of the hard power is very important, to understand themselves clearly, everything else will become relatively simple.

Four, if the genius is not you, hard work and practicality is to walk the social tools

Don't always think that they are gifted, there is a saying called don't use your hobbies to challenge other people to eat the skills of the rice bowl, whether it's in the workplace and the community, to maintain the attitude of learning and humility. Genius relies on the talent is only 1%, diligence and pragmatic efforts, step by step, is the most effective shortcut to achieve goals and ideals.

Fifth, learn self-discipline, to overcome the weaknesses of human nature

Most of us will often go to the temporary enjoyment of a thing, and give up the original plan, which is why the plan is always unable to catch up with the changes in the reason, we have to learn to delay the enjoyment of the long-term development of things, accustomed to delayed gratification, to improve the implementation of their own power. You can't interrupt your future plans and development because of a short current pleasure.

To give a very simple example, you originally planned to write an article every day, but today I feel tired and don't want to write, I want to brush the video to relax, this time you need to restrain this desire, once you get into the habit of doing something, it will be very difficult to insist on doing a thing in the future, to overcome the human nature of the desire to learn to experience the sense of delayed gratification.

Finally, I'd like to send you a sentence: No small stream can become a river or an ocean, and no step by step can lead to a thousand miles.