I've met a very biased parent. She completely denied that her children play games, and I don't know if it's because of her strong opposition, but her children are very fond of playing games. The more you can't get, the more interesting it is, and the more you want it. So her child secretly played it every time when she was not around, and was addicted to it. Then I asked this child, "So what does your mom want you to do in your downtime? "She allows me to swipe videos, just not play games." I was stunned, isn't the essence of playing games and swiping through videos both time killers? What's the difference between them? On the mechanism of addiction, brush video is not worse than playing games ah.
It turns out that when a person's thinking forms a stereotype, it's hard for him to change. The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of what you're looking for, what you're looking for, and what you're looking for.
Think of a story about a man who was a serious opponent of superstition. I say he was serious because many people just don't believe in it, but he was inclined to act in reverse. For example, when others say 13 is unlucky, he prefers to choose the number 13 from time to time. When others say that a cat in the night is unlucky, he goes for the cat in the night. In this way, he proved that he was not superstitious. Later, someone asked him a question, you are so against superstition, is it also on the "not superstitious" a kind of superstition?
The same is true for games, or for everything in the world, there are benefits and harms. Some people say that the game is harmful, but there are also people who have gained money and honor by doing the game, and there are also people who have opened up a different life by playing the game. Some people say that short videos are harmful, and there are people who have built their own e-commerce empires through short videos. Some people say cell phones are harmful, and there are people who have used them to help themselves with note taking, time management, and fitness. Our thinking is limited when we are immersed in something right or something wrong, when none of that really matters.
What does matter?
Being in control is most important. If you have something important left to do, but you still can't let go of the game in your hands, you're being controlled by the game. If you know that there is a thing that is about to close soon, and still tell yourself that you will brush another half hour of short videos, then you are being controlled by short videos. If you can't put your phone down when it's time to take a break, you're being controlled by your phone. In fact, most of the time we are in control, your attention, your energy, your time, seemingly no consumption of money, in fact, these things are far more valuable than money.
It's really hard to be in control, but the more you realize you're in control, the more you'll be in control. Big data now, algorithmic analysis now, operators now, they know us better than we even know ourselves. You can't teach you to make money, you can't not read it, right? Teach you to be beautiful, you can't help it, right? Teach you to live longer, you can't not see it, right? If you can't, I'll show you handsome girls and boys, I don't believe you won't look at them! After you know some psychological knowledge, sociological knowledge, you will find that you are completely taken, people use your nature, your psychology! Only when you realize that you are in control, you can begin to slowly learn to control yourself.
In the future, if there is a meta-universe, something that is very much like a game world, we will encounter more temptations. It may be harder to be in control, but as long as we keep our thinking, we won't be controlled by those things.
It's not the games that hurt us, it's the loss of control we have over ourselves.
It's not the games that get us, it's the loss of control over ourselves.