So why do guys seem to get over it more easily?
From the point of view of the big data, the male group in the breakup after the presentation of a very fast release, mainly from four aspects of the reason:
1, the boys of the deeper degree of emotional concealment
2, both sides of the feelings of the degree of attachment is different
3, the boys are more rational and objective, it is more easy to cut off the availability of the low attachment
4, after the breakup of the The emotional rhythm is different
To put it bluntly, boys are born to be an actor. They subconsciously hide the excessive emotional changes brought about by their children's love - because society doesn't welcome them that way.
So a mature guy, after a breakup, will more or less pretend to be fearless and strong in front of a crowd, as if they are invulnerable. They themselves can't accept that they're wilting all day for a woman or a relationship, and the education they've received since childhood and the social background they've lived in subconsciously makes them feel it's shameful.
So they are usually used to burying the pain of their breakup deep in their hearts, unlike girls who can be uninhibitedly sad after a breakup.
And this process can easily be taken as a sign that they don't care about the breakup by onlookers - especially fellow girls who don't understand the reason for it.
In fact, however, there are plenty of guys who toss and turn after a breakup and can't stop thinking about it. It's just that their hurt is digested by themselves.
2, the two sides of the feelings of different degrees of retention
There is also a situation, that is, the boys of the breakup is actually a long-planned intention.
He has long been in the feelings of intolerance, long been numb to you. Loss of freshness or, no longer love or, in short, they have long felt that this relationship is dispensable, just not a suitable opportunity and reason to break up with you.
There is a high probability that they will be compassionate to you in the relationship, and will also sympathize with you, and will also feel that you are struggling to stay in the look of quite poor. But this can only delay the breakup time, ultimately can not change the fact that he broke up with you sooner or later.
The longer the breakup drags on, the more relieved the boys will be after the separation. He will have to bear the mere habit of disappearing, but will no longer be attached to your past emotions, will no longer rummage through the details of it, will not be reluctant, and will not want to go back.
3, boys more rational and objective, easy to cut off the low availability of love
Men will treat feelings less unnecessary a lot of fantasy, is a typical "pragmatist".
Imagine that most of the stargazers are not little girls? They know that they may not be able to see their favorite love beans in this lifetime, but it doesn't affect them at all to spend money and time and invest a lot of feelings for their love beans.
But the boys are the opposite, you ask them if they like Gao Yuanyuan Fan Bingbing, they will also say yes - but do not see a few willing to spend money and time for their favorite actresses.
The contrast is clear: a mature enough boys, is not going to waste time and energy on people with low availability, no matter how good and perfect the other side, as long as the boys feel no play in their hearts, that will really cut off the love of her thought.