However, most of these quarrels are just small fights. Although stumbling, as long as you meet a reasonable mother-in-law and a reasonable husband, you can live a happy life.
However, some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems not only exist in daily life, there are always mothers who do not give up their financial rights after their sons get married, interfere with husband and wife's property, and even involve debt problems.
As a daughter-in-law, if such a thing is not handled well, it will not only lead to the breakdown of marriage, but even lead to an unexplained debt dispute.
After all, in most cases, when such a thing happens, it is often the daughter-in-law who suffers, and the mother-in-law will never harm the interests of her son.
Therefore, if a woman has any debt problems in her marriage, she must know how to get out in time, and don't help her blindly because she is a husband, which will get into a quagmire.
The mother-in-law forced her daughter-in-law to let her parents borrow money to pay off their debts. The daughter-in-law took out the divorce agreement: "Sign it." Husband and wife should support each other, but this support is not blind. If men or in-laws always take women's contribution for granted and even start to calculate women, then women should learn to safeguard their own interests.
Zhang Ya and Huang Hao have been married for three years, and Huang Hao has started his own business. Zhang Ya is a primary school teacher, and their life is simple and happy. Zhang Ya is very satisfied with Howie herself, but the only problem is that Zhang Ya doesn't like her mother-in-law.
Zhang Ya's mother-in-law is a typical protector of her son and treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider. What Hao Hao did was right and perfect in the eyes of her mother-in-law. Even though Zhang Ya's own conditions and family conditions are excellent, her mother-in-law still thinks that Zhang Ya has reached her son.
Zhang Ya didn't care too much about her mother-in-law's partiality and abuse. She knows that her mother-in-law doesn't dislike her, but doesn't like anyone who becomes her daughter-in-law. Plus Howie is very kind to herself, Zhang Ya and her mother-in-law have no big conflict.
However, it is inevitable to stumble in getting along. My mother-in-law comes to their house from time to time. Every time she comes, she always plays tricks on Zhang Ya in front of Howie. She is in charge of everything in the family, and she is always asking about the savings in the family, chanting that Zhang Ya doesn't care about the family and wants her to take care of the money.
Although Zhang Ya had a good temper, she didn't give in. In the long run, she will always contradict her mother-in-law. Fortunately, Howie is on Zhang Ya's side in most cases, and Zhang Ya doesn't want to embarrass her husband.
There are always accidents in life. Although Huang Hao's company is small, it has been doing well. Unexpectedly, in a project, the other party absconded with money, and Huang Hao's company suddenly got into trouble and owed a lot of foreign debts.
When Zhang Ya knew this, he comforted Haohao and told him to stay with him no matter what, and to tide over the difficulties with him. However, foreign debt is not a small sum, and the longer it drags on, the bigger the vacancy will be. So, Zhang Ya and Howie discussed whether to sell the house and take money for emergency. Howie made up his mind and agreed.
But somehow, Zhang Ya's mother-in-law found out and refused to sell the house. She cried and shouted that the old couple earned the house for her son, and Zhang Ya's idea was to swallow their money.
However, Zhang Ya also paid for the house. When buying a house, the down payment is half that of the family. So, Zhang Ya put forward such a suggestion, actually not to be in the real world, but to be with Howie * * *.
In the face of her mother-in-law's opposition, Zhang Ya communicated well with her at first, but what she didn't expect was that her mother-in-law asked Zhang Ya to pay her debts, and even asked Zhang Ya to go back to her mother's house and let her parents sell the old house.
Zhang Ya was furious and asked her mother-in-law why she wanted her parents to sell the house. Who knows that my mother-in-law actually took out a private loan agreement and said to Zhang Ya: "Daughter-in-law, take this back to your parents and let them find a way to borrow some money, so that everyone doesn't have to sell the house!"
Emotional analysis:
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always inevitable, and there will always be small friction. At this time, women's emotional intelligence and men's attitude are very important.
Faced with the inevitable contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we can turn a blind eye to daily trifles, as long as the family is harmonious. But as long as principles are involved, women must keep their eyes open, stay awake and stick to their own principles, and can't hurt themselves and their families because of love.
Especially in property, women may value men's financial resources when they get married, but this is definitely not the only criterion; Maybe in love, you don't ask him to have financial resources, but at least in marriage, you shouldn't drag your family into inexplicable debts.
It's not that couples can't share weal and woe, but they should pay more attention to themselves and protect their personal and economic interests in this respect.
Furthermore, it is human nature for husband and wife to help each other, but this kind of help should not be calculated, let alone let one party pay, but the other party thinks it is natural.
Therefore, in marriage, both men and women should learn to put themselves in each other's shoes, and don't just think about themselves whenever something happens, and then kidnap each other morally, feeling that the other party doesn't agree or do it, which means that they don't love or have sincerity.