With the development of the times, prices soar, followed by the price of marriage! The wedding night is one of the four happy events in life. I don't know when the whole family will worry.
Others have worked hard to raise their daughters, but men never tire of it! In theory, it is natural to give some dowry money. But now it has become something that most families talk about! The reason is that the cost is high, exceeding expectations! In the eighties and nineties of last century, most people got married in three big things: refrigerator, color TV, washing machine, and air conditioning if conditions were good. In the new century, the three big things of marriage will become cars, houses and tickets! A house alone can make a family heavily in debt! Not to mention cars and bonuses!
China is a populous country with a vast territory, and the gap between the rich and the poor is still very large. A peasant family may not have enough savings for a lifetime to buy a house in the city! But isn't raising children just to give them a good life? Isn't it for the continuation of the family? How can you bear to watch your child be alone for life? Therefore, no matter how hard and tired you are, you must meet the basic conditions for marriage! Although there are no relevant provisions in the law, this is how society has agreed to become a custom!
In the final analysis, parents have no obligation to help their children buy a house and a car. Only when the financial ability allows it is love! Because of the convention of society, you will feel that "other people's parents have bought houses and cars for their children, so why don't you buy them for me?" It seems that this is a matter of course, but it is actually wrong!
We can't attribute some responsibilities to some people in this society because of some phenomena in this society! In fact, you can think the other way around. There were many promising young people in society before last year. They honor their parents and repay them. Can you do it? Just like buying a house and a car for parents, can their behavior be said to be a hard standard for children? It seems that some young people wash their parents' feet every day to show filial piety. Can you say that this is the normal thing for children to do?
Obviously not, so we can't hold the mentality that it's parents' fault that we can't get married, because they didn't buy a house or a car! A person's success lies in himself, and parents only play a guiding role. Parents brought us up and brought us to the big stage of society to show the value of self-realization in order to live up to this life, instead of complaining about everything and counting on others!
In fact, if your partner loves you and you believe in your ability, it can be solved through negotiation. Can she wait for you? When you make some achievements. Because not everyone is born with a golden key, sometimes success needs to wait! But don't complain that your parents are incompetent, it's not their fault, because they don't want to spend their lives with your other half, they have to work hard! If you can't wait, you can only borrow money. Give yourself some pressure as motivation!