But something happened last Sunday that completely tore my cognition.
My college roommate, Lingling's three brothers and sisters, has an elder sister and a younger brother. I am the least favored one. Even the money for going to college is my own student loan. In the four years of college, I not only didn't spend a penny at home, but also gave my hometown mother 10 thousand yuan every year!
That was ten years ago. After four years of college, I am either working or on my way to work. She said that she was most afraid of receiving a phone call from home, and she wanted money besides money! I am worse than Fan! Fan at least needs to support her younger brother and parents, and her mother even takes care of her grandparents' medical expenses!
As long as her parents see that she has bought new clothes or skin care products, they will scold her for spending money indiscriminately and being in the mood to buy clothes! Her mother is often afraid that she will use good skin care products. I often brainwash her that high-priced skin care products are deceptive, and the effect of a few dollars is the same as that of hundreds of dollars. Besides, you are not good-looking, and using cosmetics is gilding the lily (my classmate had a scar on his face when he was a child, so it is better to buy more barrels of oil for home)!
But my parents obviously just bought my brother a 600,000 house and a 200,000 car in the county. My mother almost took away my salary of four or five thousand a month, except for rent and daily expenses! In this way, I am still not satisfied, and I want her to marry the second married man who runs a plastic granule factory in the same village, just because that man promised to give a bride price of 200,000 yuan. But that man is not only married with two children, but also nearly ten years older than my classmate!
Because of this, my classmate wanted to break up with his family, so he didn't contact or send money to his family for half a year. I didn't expect my mother to do better. She went straight to the company and threatened to break up the relationship. Unless the family gives her 1 million, she will never feel better!
Lingling felt ashamed to stay in the company because of her mother's nonsense, and she was relieved. Anyway, her mother will never let go until she finds money on herself. Well, go home and get married with her as she wishes. She once made some negative remarks in the circle of friends for a while, and several of our roommates often called her in turn to enlighten him and let her not be sad. She said she resigned!
It wasn't long before we received an invitation to get married. Everyone chipped in to go where they could. Everyone hopes that she can make her own decisions in her future life. We also met her husband. To tell you the truth, this is beyond our expectation. The man looks very gentle, except for being a little older, they look very suitable for each other.
After two years, Lingling's original plastic granule factory could not be opened because of strict environmental inspection in the north, so she closed the factory and took her two children to work in the south.
It is said that Lingling's mother didn't get a penny from her during the two years of marriage. Lingling's household registration and social security relationship have moved to the man, and she no longer has to be controlled by others.
Lingling's mother's manner also completely refreshed my three views. So there really are mothers who don't want their children to live well?
Is it dark to ask this question? What kind of mother doesn't want her daughter to get better?