In married life, I can accept that my partner has private money. Of course, there is a numerical limit, and it also depends on what he uses the private money for and whether he has any bad habits. For example, if he just uses the money to buy some things he likes to eat, such as desserts, then as long as he doesn't eat too much and is not harmful to the body, you can tolerate him, and of course you should also remind him appropriately to let him Knowing that you have discovered this matter will make him restrain himself and express his gratitude to you. If you ignore him, he may become more and more unable to control himself. Eating too many desserts is also harmful to the body. , and if what he eats is not dessert, but uses the money to buy alcohol or participate in gambling, then the consequences will be more serious. In this case, you should stop it in time.
In terms of quantity, for ordinary people, being able to hide 10,000 yuan of private money is already quite huge, because this 10,000 yuan can do many things. And if your family is relatively wealthy, then this amount should not exceed 100,000 yuan. Because this involves some emotional issues, some people may have planned to break up with you, so transfer the property in advance. In this case, if you let him go, he is likely to get worse. Of course, this is only a possibility. You When you have a showdown with the other party, don't express this idea directly, otherwise it may hurt your feelings. But on the other hand, if he has no idea, why should he think about such a large sum of money for no reason? ? So you have to understand his original intention.
In addition, some people lack security awareness and feel that only by saving a large amount of money can they be safe, so they will not spend the money, but save more and more money. . This is actually a good thing for you. You can occasionally take time to check your money account to see how much you have saved. This is equivalent to having someone to help you share the pressure when you encounter something. , you need money urgently, and you don’t have enough money on hand, this money may become a life-saving straw.
The last situation is more special, that is, you are a spendthrift person, often spending money to buy things, and do not know how to restrain yourself, so that you cannot save money at home at all, not only every month, but also a lot of money. Possibly took out a loan. So in this case, it is understandable that your partner hides some money secretly, because he also has long-term plans for the two of you. He may tell you that the family has no money, which will stimulate you to work hard or work hard. He saves money in life, but he does this for your own good, and there are no other problems.