Some people say that marriage without feelings is like a nightmare, and marriage without material things is a painful reality.

It is true that a marriage without feelings is like a house without foundation, which will collapse when it encounters some shaking; A marriage without material things is like a car without oil, which can't run at all. Emotion and material things are indispensable to marriage. Without either party, marriage will not be happy.

As someone said, marriage is half a couple's feelings and half a material condition. It is not shameful to talk about material things in marriage, because material things are very important to life.

In real life, many people realize this truth. Therefore, many people made it clear before getting married that marriage requires certain material conditions. Today, three essential material conditions for marriage have been finalized, namely: house, car and bride price.

These three things undoubtedly weigh on contemporary men like three mountains. If you want to get married, you must meet these three points, otherwise it is impossible.

It must be said that few men can meet this material requirement on their own. Most men get married with the help of their parents. And after the wedding, a family is like skinning.

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Both the car and the bride price can be discussed, but I believe many people will not have room for discussion about the house. Since ancient times, people in China have had an unusual attachment to houses. In China people's minds, a house represents home. Where there is a house, there is a home. If you don't have a house, you are just a ghost in the city.

Because of this, the premise of marriage is to have a house first. Whether there is a house has become the primary condition for unmarried women to choose a man to marry.

I don't know if this is good, because this kind of thing is reasonable, and the old woman said that the old woman is right. However, couples who can't get married because of the house sometimes go their separate ways.

The excessive pursuit of material things in marriage has evolved into a bad social phenomenon. The gold digger is the most typical example, such as "I would rather cry on a BMW than laugh on a bicycle". In the long run, many women's views on mate selection will become deformed.

There is nothing wrong with pursuing material things in marriage, but please be moderate. After all, marriage should be based on the feelings of husband and wife, blindly pursuing material things and forgetting the initial heart. What about happiness in marriage?

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Because of the house, how many people can't sleep at night, how many families are conscientious, and what's more, for the house, marriage conflicts are everywhere.

The house has too many labels that shouldn't belong to it. One of the most unacceptable is the stepping stone to marriage.

A house may have witnessed the joys and sorrows of too many people and the joys and sorrows of too many families.

Reader Xiaoli once contributed to me and told her story, a family farce that evolved because of the house.

Xiaoli is 26 years old and has just been married for half a year. But in such a short time, she encountered contradictions in marriage and had conflicts with her mother-in-law.

Xiao Li and her husband Li Neng met in the same company. At that time, both of them had just graduated from university and entered the same company. Li Neng has a warm and lively personality. After spending some time with Xiaoli, she has a good impression on Xiaoli. Two people of the same age, * * * have many topics, and Li Neng often invites Xiaoli to eat and watch movies. Over time, the two people have a good impression on each other and determine the relationship.

Because both of them are locals, their parents also agree that they fall in love.

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Here's a brief introduction to the basic situation of two people: Xiaoli's family is ordinary, her parents are employees of the company, and she is an only child. She was loved by her parents since childhood and never suffered anything. Li Neng is also an ordinary family, and her family and Xiaoli are a good match. He is also an only child.

The two people are very similar in personality. * * * has many topics, and they get along with each other every day, making rapid progress.

In this way, the two talked about love for about a year, and they felt that they knew each other almost. So they discussed it and prepared to get married.

Before getting married, Li Neng told Xiaoli about her family's situation, saying that it was not realistic to buy a house in full, and she had to pay a down payment, and then both of them would repay the loan together. Xiaoli was considerate of Li Neng, so she promised him.

Xiaoli's parents also like Li Neng very much. They think the young man is cheerful and kind to his daughter. So when talking about marriage, we agreed to the marriage of two people without asking for anything.

Li Neng was moved, and she vowed to treat Xiaoli for a lifetime. I went home happily and told my parents.

Li Neng's parents are also very happy. After all, getting married now costs too much. If they meet a girl who never gives in, their family will be skinned even if they die.

In this way, the marriage of two people was arranged on the agenda. Before getting married, her mother-in-law took Xiaoli's hand and said, "Good daughter-in-law, let's do the wedding first, and you two will choose the house slowly." Xiaoli agreed without thinking.

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After getting married, the couple first moved into Li Neng's parents' house and began to look around.

Anyone who has bought a house should know that it takes a long time to buy a house, and you should choose lots, communities, apartment types, properties and so on. This is a time-consuming and laborious thing.

Xiaoli, Li Neng and her mother-in-law break their legs every day, but they still haven't bought a lovely house.

In fact, it's mainly my mother-in-law's fooling around, not that the house is not well lit, but that she is disgusted with the residential property. Originally, Xiaoli also picked a few good ones, but they were all rejected by her mother-in-law.

Later, Xiaoli felt a little uncomfortable. Is this me or my mother-in-law buying a house? Later, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had many differences and frictions because of buying a house.

Finally, Xiaoli took a fancy to a house, which she particularly liked, and Li Neng thought it was very good, but her mother-in-law chose this and that. Xiaoli took Li Neng aside and said to him, "I want this house, and I don't want to waste any more time looking at it. You can talk to your mother. "

Li Neng told her mother that she would reserve this suite. My mother-in-law reluctantly agreed. But he refused to take out the money.

It turned out that my mother-in-law really thought that she didn't want to buy a house for two people, but wanted them to live at home. But seeing the firm side of her son and daughter-in-law, she thought it over carefully and began to calculate Xiaoli.

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She knows that the house where Xiaoli's parents live is 120 square meters. She thought it was too wasteful to live alone, so she put the idea on Xiaoli's parents.

The mother-in-law called Xiaoli and her son to her side and said to Xiaoli, "Daughter-in-law, the house you like is too expensive and the location is not good. But since you and my son like it, I'll buy it. "

She went on to say, "but there is a lot of money down payment, and our family can't take it out." I have a good idea. Daughter-in-law, I think your parents' house is too big. It's a waste for two people to live together. In this case, go home and let your parents sell the house and change it to a smaller one. Let's chip in to buy this house. Do you think this idea is good? "

Mother-in-law looked smug and thought it was a good idea, but her little mind was immediately seen through by Xiaoli. Isn't this clear for me?

Xiaoli's fire suddenly jumped up. She said angrily, "Mom, I think your house is also very big. It's a waste for you to live with my father. Why don't you sell it to us? You and my dad go out to rent a house! "

After Xiaoli said this, her mother-in-law's little mind was caught, and she immediately became angry from embarrassment and quarreled with Xiaoli. Li Neng quickly separated the two men.

Xiaoli said directly to Li Neng, "I hope you can remember how you promised me. I love you, but it doesn't mean that your mother can treat me like a fool. "

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Li Neng immediately apologized to Xiaoli for her mother and said that she would definitely persuade her mother to buy a house. Xiaoli was relieved.

Because of this farce, the relationship between Xiaoli and her mother-in-law plummeted. She has been married for less than half a year. Because the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is so great, it is embarrassing to think about it.

Many times, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is because one party takes it for granted to safeguard the interests of the other. If both sides can think from each other's perspective, I believe many problems will be solved.