Liu Yin just got engaged some time ago, and the man gave a bride price of 88,000. Originally, Liu Yin promised her boyfriend. Later, with the bride price money, they started a small business to make a living. They don't want her boyfriend to go to work in such a distant city after marriage. After all, it is not easy to live in a different place. But the bride price didn't reach her, and her parents robbed her.
Parents took her bride price and casually said, don't take this bride price to her husband's family. This is a gift from the man. There is no reason to take advantage of it. After listening, Liu Yin said that this money is not for my husband's family, but the capital I intend to use for my own small business. My parents quickly concealed that it would not work. We raised you so much. This money is from my son-in-law. Don't try to take it away.
Of course, Liu Yin knew why her parents were leading her bride price, so she said directly, "It's just that my brother is engaged, and you can't afford that much money, and the woman doesn't want to. Do you want to marry your brother with my bride price money? " Parents are a little embarrassed to be poked directly by their daughters, showing that they are incompetent, but this is the case.
In life, it is common for parents to invade their daughters' bride price, especially in rural families. If they can't afford their sons to marry their daughters, they will rob their daughters of their money. Is this really right? Daughters will be chilling when they see the gap between parents and children. Just like Liu Yin, it is said that she broke up with her parents later. Because her parents were unfair, she had no daughter in her eyes.
△ What happens if parents detain their daughter's bride price money to their younger brother's wife?
(1) The relationship between brother and sister is broken.
If we only consider the source of funds for the son to marry his daughter-in-law, but take up the bride price money for no reason, the most direct impact is the feelings between brother and sister. No matter how good their previous relationship was, their brother-sister friendship has been broken since their parents searched for their daughter for their son. Moreover, if the younger brother is really sensible, he should stop his parents from doing such unfair things. Only in this way can the younger sister feel a little warmth and think about the mutual affection between brother and sister.
2 daughters hate their parents and don't take care of the elderly.
What children hate most is the parents' partiality to another child. If parents really give their daughter the bride price money to their son, it may make her hate her parents from now on, leading to the breakdown of the relationship between father and daughter. Because no child is angry enough to stand the unreasonable behavior of his parents. Parents should never lose big because of small things. If they lose their daughter, their son may be hopeless in his later years.
(3) Let the daughter be disappointed in the family and hurt the child's heart.
Girls are soft-hearted, and their desire for affection far exceeds that of their sons. It is said that daughters are parents' intimate little cotton-padded jackets because girls know how to repay kindness and are more considerate and filial than boys. Parents' inaction and withholding their daughter's bride price money will hurt the child's heart and make her disappointed with her parents, family and family.
△ Should parents ask for bride price money for their daughters? What is the right thing to do?
Bridal money is the money for a daughter to form a small family.
I guess no parents don't want their daughters to live a bad life, do they? In any case, the daughter is also a piece of meat that fell from her. There are always decades of feelings. Therefore, Buick must deduct his daughter's bride price money, because she also wants to have a life. Those bride price money are the funds for her independent life and all her confidence in facing a new family.
If you want your daughter to hold the head in her husband's house, you shouldn't.
Parents must understand what money should be and what money should not be. Daughter's bride price money must not be deducted. In wealthy families, daughters get some dowry when they get married. It means to tell her husband's family not to look down on her daughter, but also to tell her that her family supports her. If the parents deduct all the bride price money, wouldn't they tell the in-laws that the girl's parents don't love her and it doesn't matter if you bully her casually?
If parents are not at ease, they can keep it for them and give it to their daughter when her marriage is stable.
If parents really care about their daughters, the inspection of the son-in-law is not over yet. I want to pledge the bride price to my daughter. I am afraid that my daughter's bride price will be cheated by my son-in-law, and then I still don't love my daughter. Finally, my daughter is empty. Then parents can take care of their daughter temporarily, and when the relationship is stable, parents must return it in full.
Parents should treat their daughters and sons equally, so it is the truth that "twisting melons is not sweet". If parents treat their children fairly at ordinary times, it's really time for my brother to have no money to get married. Daughters will also think of their parents and give some help because they don't want to embarrass their parents. From the perspective of brother and sister, which sister doesn't care about her brother? Of course, they won't watch their younger brother fail to get a wife. But parents forcibly occupy it, which is enough to break a child's heart.