Some women, however, want to live like men, have to live like women, shoulder the whole family with thin shoulders, or bear the inner suffering alone, step by step, even without a trace of retreat. Especially for middle-aged women, youth is drifting away. If there is no one around to rely on, the inner suffering can only be borne by oneself, and no one can say that he has become "Huanglian".
When a woman is most pitiful, it may be below. If you meet such a woman, please give her a smiling face, more encouragement, less ridicule, and never ignore her. Perhaps, an encouraging look and a warm word from you can make her live more sunshine and feel the love of society.
Li Zhihua, a friend from the village, is thirty-one years old. Her boyfriend Qiu Mi is her college alumnus, and they fell in love at school. Later, the two walked out of the school gate and went to the south together. Li Zhihua works in an electronics factory and is in charge of office secretarial work. Boyfriend Qiu Mi works as a technician in an electroplating factory. In order to gain a foothold in the south and buy a house in Shenzhen, they decided not to get married first and put their career first.
Li Zhihua and her boyfriend have been in love for more than eight years. Just when she thought she had made a lot of money and could get married, her boyfriend left and went to Shanghai to develop. In fact, my boyfriend fell in love with a Shanghai girl and hypocritically said to Li Zhihua, "I want to further develop my career and go to a big company in Shanghai." Such an excuse left Li Zhihua speechless.
Youth is drifting away, and the original love has disappeared. Poor Li Zhihua. She works alone in the south and doesn't know where the future lies. But so bitter, who should I talk to? She told her mother that her mother gave her a sentence, "You are blaming yourself for not polishing your eyes." Even my mother doesn't understand her. Who else can comfort her? In the future, if she wants to talk about another love, she will have no courage.
"Feelings are always hurt mercilessly." The man I deeply love turned around and left. It's really pitiful that women have to accept this fact. Tears can only flow into your heart, and you have to smile during the day, pretend nothing, and pray for the next love, so that you can stay together until you are old.
Many people think that men can make money at work and women can easily take care of their children at home. Actually, it's not. Many women not only have to go to work, but also take care of their children and do housework. If a man understands her and feels sorry for her, it is worthwhile to be tired and tired again, and he will not feel how bitter it is. But some men who don't understand her always accuse her of not doing well enough.
My classmate Lihua, who married a Cantonese, thought that Cantonese people were rich, but her husband's house, in a big ravine, had only two adobe houses. In order to change the family situation, Lihua and her husband borrowed more than 300,000 yuan and bought a house in the county. In order to pay off the loan as soon as possible, Lihua works in an electronics factory during the day and doesn't get off work until eight in the evening. When she got home, she had to cook, mop the floor and take care of her children's homework. The husband sits on the sofa watching his mobile phone and often accuses Lihua of being too careless in housework.
At the last class reunion, Lihua said, "When my husband scolded me, I really wanted to have a big fight with him, but I held back for the sake of the children." However, I often wonder, when will this day end? "We all sympathize with pear flowers, but what's the use? The key is that Lihua's husband should understand her.
It's really pitiful that women go to work, do housework and take care of children and are scolded by their husbands. She lives very tired, but her heart is very tired.
Some men are poor and have no initiative. After marriage, men have been lazy and shirked the responsibility of supporting their families to women. As a woman, although she can support her family, she can't make money for a long time. Relatively speaking, women's skills are not as good as men's, and even worse if they do manual labor.
Marrying a man who is not enterprising, the woman is very pitiful. My cousin Wu Mei, married to Hainan, plays cards every day. She goes to work in the factory. At the end of the month, the man went to her factory to settle his salary. It was shameless. Wu Mei's parents want her to divorce, but Wu Mei doesn't want to divorce her children.
A man with a bad heart will make the women around him very tired. He is an irresponsible person, even a timid person. When a woman marries him, she thinks she can change him, but she makes a big mistake and suffers so much that she can't even find the medicine to regret.
Divorced women sometimes look smart and talk easily. In fact, she will not be happy, tired and disappointed in love. Especially those divorced women who can't get out of the emotional shadow, have been hurt by a failed marriage all their lives. As the saying goes, "once bitten, twice shy." After the divorce, she led a boring life.
Some women have to live alone with their children after divorce. Although the ex-husband has the obligation to pay alimony, but the ex-husband just cheated, or is too poor to pay alimony. Women can only grit their teeth and continue to live with the belief that "no matter how hard they suffer, they can't suffer their children."
Divorced middle-aged women, living with their children, wandering outside, without dependence and decent home, are very pitiful. Leave the strong appearance to others, the smiling face to children, and the tears to yourself forever.
Some parents-in-law, unreasonable, not only do not help to take care of the children, but also let their daughter-in-law cook for them every day. Be kind to them, and call names if you are slightly dissatisfied. There is an old saying in my hometown: "As soon as a daughter-in-law enters the door, a man's mother becomes an old lady." This sentence means that the mother-in-law is very powerful and strict with her daughter-in-law. Not teaching her is not enough to show her prestige and status. If the mother-in-law has such traditional ideas, the daughter-in-law will definitely suffer.
It is very pitiful for a woman to meet unreasonable in-laws. She has no dignity at home, and no matter what she does, she will not be recognized. She must be wary of her parents-in-law. If the husband also helps the in-laws, the woman will be even more miserable and suffer every day.
When women are poor, there are still many. For example, it is only after marriage that men are found to be violent; A person walks into a strange city alone and looks for a job everywhere; I tried to do a good job, but I was severely criticized by my boss. Chatting with people around you when you are very tired, but you are scolded. ......
Being a woman is not easy. I hope men can understand her and give her a shoulder to lean on. As a man, if you love her, love her all your life, don't bully her; If you don't love her, don't let love begin.
Author: coarse grains in cloth.
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