On duty yesterday, an alarm message popped up in the alarm system of 1 10. A young woman reported to the police that her father abused her mother, and there was a lot of blood at the scene, fearing that she would die.

My colleague Zhang and I drove to the scene immediately. The young pregnant woman who opened the door for us was wearing a floral dress. Her face was delicate and pale, and she gestured emotionally. She couldn't make it clear.

Deaf and dumb. Later, her mother said that she was hard of hearing when she was a child.

The house is big, and I have two dogs. I don't know where they are tied, and they keep screaming, which makes people panic. From the entrance hall to the living room and then to the bedroom, the pile is full and messy, conveying an atmosphere that the owner has no intention of living at all.

An old lady with gray hair came out of the master bedroom, looking depressed and haggard. "My daughter called the police, ..." The old lady paused. "Her father wanted to sell the house, but I didn't agree, so he just ..."

The old lady couldn't go on and wiped her face.

Let's go in. Panting, the old man sat on the bed and swore, "I bought the house myself, so I can deal with it as I like." None of you can handle it ... "The old man was a little chubby, wearing a thin sweater and a big, thick gold chain around his neck. His face was flushed with excitement and his forehead was covered with sweat.

"You fucking call the police? Aren't the police good? I'm not afraid of the police! " As he spoke, he picked up a stamped paper from a pile of documents around him and tore it up.

The old lady jumped up and grabbed it. Zhang hurriedly grabbed the old man's arm, and a small part of the paper had been torn off.

Blood drops on the sheets. The old man's left index finger was wrapped in toilet paper and was still bleeding.

"You look at the old man." I told Zhang that I would take the old lady to the living room.

"Aunt, what's going on?" I sat the old lady down and asked softly.

The old lady just sighed and didn't speak for a long time.

My daughter came and poured us a glass of water. Looking at the old lady, she is probably trying to persuade her mother.

The old lady nodded. "Go to eat. Leave me alone. You have a child in your belly. "

My daughter won't leave.

While combing her hair, the old lady told me about the situation at home intermittently. In the early years, the couple had a good relationship. They made a lot of money in business and bought several houses. Twenty years ago, they met San Xiao, mortgaged several houses at home and went to New Zealand to do real estate business. This time I came back, I still came home.

"The house is a girl's name. There is no loan for this house, and now I want to sell it. How can I live with my girl if I sell it? He has borrowed more than 30 million! "

"Aunt, you don't worry, since the house is her daughter's name, he can't sell it. The Housing Authority has registered online, so you don't have to rob his house. For example, if the house is on fire and burned down, the house is not yours? How do you want us to help you? " I asked.

"I don't know, my mind is a mess." The old lady shook her head.

"What's wrong with the old hand injury? Are you all right? "

"He dropped the bowl, cut. I'm fine, and he didn't care much about me. "

"You go out and find a hotel with your daughter first. He is too excited now. What will happen if you two stay under the same roof? Second, find a lawyer, sue for divorce, and divide property and debt. You've been apart for 20 years, and he's seeing someone outside. Your nominal marriage is meaningless. "

The old lady was silent.

Just then, the son-in-law came back, saying that he had received a phone call from his wife and came back from the company.

I explained two points to my son-in-law, asking him to call 120 to see a doctor for the elderly.

When Zhang and I left, the old man was still very excited. "I don't need to call a doctor." Our housework, you police can't control it, you can't control it ... "

The door closed behind us, shutting off the noise of the old man, the croaking of his daughter, the sigh of the old lady and the barking of dogs from another world. That world belongs to them and outsiders can't get in.

"I don't know, my mind is a mess." The haggard face of the old lady lingers in my mind, and I think of San Mao's words, "What is the heart? It's like a maze. Thousands of miles away, there is no boat to cross people. No one can help but cross by themselves. "

She hasn't made a decision for twenty years. Can a word from an outsider help her make a decision?

Not necessarily.

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1985, Yakos and Brammer, famous psychology professors, conducted an experiment.

They first let people spend 100 dollars to buy tickets for skiing trips. A few days later, on the grounds of being more interesting and cheaper, the same people were asked to spend $50 to buy tickets for another ski trip.

Then the professor told them: "The time of these two ski trips conflicts, so we can only choose one."

Therefore, most people choose the one with higher ticket price, rather than the more interesting and cheaper one.

The explanation they gave was: the choice of 100 only lost $50. If you choose this with 50 dollars, you will lose 100 dollars.

People care more about loss than what they get and have.

This is the famous "loss aversion" theory: for people, the pain brought by loss is far greater than the joy brought by profit.

Professor Yakos finally concluded: 90% of the misfortunes in life are due to unwillingness, which is why many people don't know how to stop losses in time.

But many times, timely stop loss is more important than blind persistence.

There are many misfortunes in life, 90% of which are due to unwillingness.

Marriage is obviously a chicken feather, but it is still obsessed with the past, unwilling to pay for itself, preferring to leave a mess, let the pain ferment, consume itself in vain, and not let go.

The "little prince" said that your rose is so important because you spent time on it.

But the reality is that you can look for roses again, but time is gone forever. You wasted your most precious life on unworthy roses.

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On May 2nd, Mr. Lian Bingbing, Chairman and President of Su You, died in an accident at the age of 47. According to residents nearby, Yu Lianbing and his 32-year-old wife, Angel, were suspected to have an argument in the house that day. Angel's relatives came to look for someone, shouted for help in the corridor and tried to break into the house. Then a large number of police arrived and the door was opened. It was found that Lian Bing and his wife had died unfortunately.

And that day, it was just the fourth anniversary of their marriage.

Yu Lianbing and Angel 15 years old, have a son.

Not long ago, Uc Vision just received 2 billion financing.

You never know which comes first, tomorrow or the accident.

Not long ago, Guan, the chairman of Sunflower Pharmaceutical, was arrested on suspicion of killing his wife. If you have a good memory, you may remember the cold-blooded madman who killed his wife and dismembered her body in Shanghai, and Zhou Chenghai, the god of stock trading, who killed actor Bai Jing and committed suicide. ......

Love and hate are just two sides of the same body. There is only a thin line between relatives and enemies, and heaven and hell are just a thought difference.

Emotion is the most expensive investment in life. When we can't see the future clearly and can't get happiness, we must stop loss in time. No matter how difficult it is, you must learn to let go of the fantasies stored in each other and come out.

Yi Shu said: True love makes people happy. If you feel pain, you must be mistaken. You need to finish in time and start over.

Zhang Youyi/Kloc-married Xu Zhimo at the age of 0/5 and went to Europe to find him, but after giving birth to her second son, she was forced to sign the first divorce agreement in the history of the Republic of China.

She hired a nanny, taught herself German, and entered Pestalozzi College, specializing in early childhood education.

1925, my son Peter died of peritonitis at the age of 3. Zhang Youyi resolutely went to Germany with a broken heart, studied while working, and learned fluent German. Her serious concept of life conforms to Germany's rigorous work style, and she has found a fulcrum of self-confidence and life.

After returning to China, she taught German at Soochow University and served as the general manager of Shang Yun Garment Company. She improved Chinese clothing, and once it was launched, it quickly became popular in Shanghai.

Later, she became the vice president of Shanghai Women's Commercial Bank, and she was decisive and amazing. After the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War, Zhang Youyi hoarded dyes for military uniforms and made a fortune by investing in cotton and gold.

Even Xu Zhimo, who once despised Zhang Youyi, wrote in a letter to a friend: "Zhang Youyi is an ambitious and courageous woman ... she is really' not afraid of anything' now."

Most tragedies in life come from indecision. Only when you have the courage to leave can you have the hope of rebirth.

"Wolf Totem" wrote: The local people will set a powerful trap on the grass, which can firmly hold the legs of wild animals, but rarely catch wolves. Because the wolf will bite off his leg at the first time after being caught; Other wild animals keep howling and become prey.

The courage to break up is the great courage and wisdom of life.