Yesterday afternoon, friends living in the same community came to visit us. I put down what I was doing and talked to her for more than an hour.

My friend has been in poor health in recent months. Either cervical pain, gynecological problems, or tinnitus. Several questions took turns, which made her very depressed. In addition, because I often go to the hospital, I have to take frequent leave, and my income has decreased. I bought a house two years ago and borrowed hundreds of thousands in addition to the loan. In this way, the pressure on the husband is even greater.

In the past, her husband loved her so much that he cooked at home. Now, husbands seldom care about her. She's a little sad, too. So, her mood is very low.

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I told her that I was depressed occasionally. I was in a bad mood the other day. When I was doing mirror exercises in the morning, I read all the contents of 2 1 day at once and cried bitterly. After reading and writing in the morning, I feel a little sleepy, and I feel lonely at home. I thought of singing and dancing. I immediately turned on my mobile phone, entered "Cool Dog Music" and played Yang Peian's "I Believe". I danced while singing. This action lasted for 20 minutes. After the exercise, the mood sky is clear again.

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I also shared my main experience since I graduated from college.

I used to go to college and my family was poor. I buy clothes from 20 yuan 10, and seldom buy snacks. After graduation, I have income and buy snacks every week. After I bought the dormitory, I ate it quickly. A year later, I went back to the past and hardly bought snacks. At that time, I realized that I needed to pay a little attention to my clothes, so I threw away all the clothes I bought at school and bought better clothes instead.

The salary is not high, plus clothes, shoes and snacks, there is no money to send home. So, mom and dad are disappointed in me. I still remember clearly that once my father called me and asked me to send money home. When I said I had no money, my father hung up at once. I know, he is particularly disappointed in me.

I remember in 2006, I went swimming with my boyfriend (now my husband) and colleagues. My elder sister called, and I answered it by the pool.

I clearly remember that she told me that she settled accounts with her parents, and the family owed 654.38+ 10,000 yuan, all of which was due to me, because I went to college, my elder sister and my second sister didn't go to college, my younger sister was still in college, and my brother was a soldier. At that time, I don't know what to say, but Lacrimosa.

In August 2006, I finally paid off my college student loan and the first loan in my life. Then in 2007, I paid off my husband's student loan. We got married in 2007.

At the end of 20 1 1, I finally paid off the loan for the first suite and changed to a big house where I lived for 20 12 years.

Of course, when we change houses, our pressure is much greater. Besides paying off the loan every month, we have to pay off the foreign debt. My husband needs to pay 40 thousand yuan a year for MBA, and my son needs to pay more than 20 thousand yuan a year for kindergarten. Although it is difficult, we are still working hard and making steady progress.

Unfortunately, since 20 13, my brother has been contracting projects, and every time he contracts, he has to pay money, not a small amount. Both sisters are well-off, and my sister is well-off, but we are the bottom. However, the salary on the book, the husband is the highest.

My mother and sister often call me and ask me to give money to my brother. However, where did I get the money? I can only be criticized by everyone again and again. So I cried again and again.

I still remember one time I got to the office early, and there was no one inside. My sister called me and asked me to take money to help my brother. I cried in the office for this, and my eyes were swollen.

I thought about it, too. My mother doesn't want me to live. She wants me to sell the house and give the money to my brother, so all three of us will die? If my relatives treat me like this, they don't want my small family to live, and I will never talk to them again.

I know my brother was born to my mother, and I was born to the same mother. I also know that elder sister, younger sister and younger brother are all brothers.

I still remember that from 20 13, my mother-in-law told us that the house in her hometown was leaking and worried that the house would collapse. The eldest brother's family would always live in it and let us take money to rebuild the house. However, where did you get the money? 20 13, 20 14, 20 15, my mother-in-law has been talking about this for several years.

When I get paid every month, my husband and I can't sleep, thinking about how to spend the money. So again and again, we finally got through that time.

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Looking back now, the hardships along the way really brought me a lot of pain. I suffer because:

1, I don't have strong skills and can make a lot of money.

I have never received a failed education. The secular standard of success is to get things done; I pursue worldly success and don't allow myself to fail. This is a question of thinking.

My relatives have been criticizing me and accusing me. I care what they think of me.

Everything has cracks, and that's how light comes in. Because I have been in the dark for a long time, I especially yearn for the light.

I remember seeing a book club activity in Qiantang community at the beginning of 20 17, and I was afraid to participate. Finally, I bravely took the first step. From then on, no matter where I am, whenever I meet new exercise opportunities, I will try enthusiastically. I have tried anyway, so I won't regret it. Courage is always before success.

These years of study have made me grow a lot. Although I will still cry and feel sad when I meet sad things, I will use my own methods to make myself recover quickly.

I know that I have emotions because of my views on people and things, because of my expectations. If I let go of my expectations, if I can look at it from the perspective of a mentor, my vision will be broader and my happiness will be stronger.

I know my life is still very long and I will meet all kinds of things and people. No matter what you like or dislike, you should strive to live well and make yourself bloom like a flower. If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come; If you are wonderful, you can arrange it yourself.

This is my change after all kinds of hardships. In the initial suffering, flowers can bloom.

I am a companion kangaroo who wants to learn, a growing family education tutor, and the mother of a boy of 12 years old. I have been studying and practicing family education since April 20 17, and I have written a diary of parenting practice for 1263 days.