Husband will calculate your performance. Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a university question. Everyone wants to win a warm and comfortable family atmosphere, which is of course inseparable from the careful management of family members. So do you know what happens when your husband sets you up? Let's have a look!

Your husband's family calculates your performance 1 1. Your husband's family calculates your performance.

Of course it is 1

All your efforts at home and abroad are taken for granted, and everything is biased towards your son. At home, the son is a young master, but the daughter-in-law is like a villain. No matter how much you do, there will be no reward. Does anyone care if you are tired?

Step 2 haggle over every ounce

All kinds of haggle over every ounce in life. At this time, you will feel that your husband's family is very sophisticated in many places, especially in terms of money. Once there is something to give, they will definitely shrink back. All kinds of crying, even let you go back to your mother's house to search for your parents.

3. Preventive measures

Talking in life is always quiet, and talking to one's family is the kind that one can't listen to. This kind of strict situation will really make people feel chilling. And as long as it is related to family, then you are definitely not involved, and what you don't discuss is usually the result.

Second, the performance of a bad mother-in-law is five.

1, qualifications

I feel that I am the only one who cares about and sells the elderly. I think everything she has done is right. She must be allowed to go anywhere. I can't let her feel that something is wrong! Otherwise I don't think I take her seriously! She'll be angry!

2. Only ask for it.

Not good for my daughter-in-law. I don't want to buy anything for my daughter-in-law, but I think my daughter-in-law should buy everything for her, and I also ask her to buy it for her. If I don't buy it, I think even my son's money belongs to her.

3. Manage everywhere

I don't care about my daughter-in-law, and I don't take my daughter-in-law as my daughter, but I must take care of everything, whether it's the young couple's affairs or the daughter-in-law's family's affairs, she has the final say! And they will say, "It's all for your own good!"

4. distrust

Daughter-in-law is not allowed to communicate with other men. If you talk too much, you will feel that there is a problem. If you don't let your daughter-in-law go out to work, you will feel that you will run away with others after a long time! Sometimes you have to go out together to feel at ease!

Step 5 pick holes

If the daughter doesn't do well, she won't say what it is. She will think that women don't have to do this, but the daughter-in-law does well. She will pick out the thorn and say that it's wrong, that's wrong!

Third, how does a smart wife treat her mother-in-law?

Method 1: Learn to watch dishes and serve them.

Treat your mother-in-law like anyone else, because most mother-in-law can't be your own mother. Even if you usually have a good relationship, you will always be an outsider when it comes to your own interests. Therefore, when facing your mother-in-law, you should learn to look at the plate, so that the other party can't find your fault, but it will also make her get no benefit.

Method 2: Face to face and behind.

This kind of face-to-face back-to-back is still to be learned when facing a bad mother-in-law. In reality, many mothers-in-law treat you well in front of their sons. They won't make mistakes, but when your son walks correctly, your eyes are not your eyes and your nose is not your nose. At this time, you should also learn this skill from your mother-in-law, so that she won't recruit you.

Method 3: Blow the pillow wind occasionally.

For women, you must learn to blow the pillow breeze. When you are particularly affectionate with each other, you must know your own major events. After all, men can listen to women best at this time. Of course, this kind of thing can't be done often and can't be said too much. Otherwise, it will be bad if it backfires. Grasping is the key.

Your husband's family calculates your performance. The first detail: Do you care about money?

Being able to treat her daughter-in-law as her own child, or take a step back for her son, and be kind to her in-laws, is actually a very intelligent family with high emotional intelligence.

They are kind and capable of thinking from each other's standpoint.

For various reasons, some male families haggle over every ounce in the face of their son's marriage, haggle step by step in the process of paying the bride price before marriage, and stare at their daughter-in-law's every move after marriage, for fear that she will spend the money of her son or their family.

Not to mention, if the other party dares to buy something to honor their parents, it is even more conclusive evidence of eating at home and choosing outside.

Before Maxim got married, the two families stayed together to discuss the bride price and dowry.

At that time, my mother-in-law said to her parents, "In-laws, I am not afraid of your jokes. After preparing the wedding room for the children, all the money at hand was spent. Do you think you can bend the rules for the bride price? Anyway, don't worry, the child will come in, and I will love her like my own daughter. "

Considering that the son-in-law's parents are just ordinary urban retired workers, her parents finally agreed and only received a symbolic 30 thousand yuan.

However, after marriage, it was found that the marriage room was registered in the name of the in-laws (the real estate license did not come down when buying a house), and her name was not added, which was equivalent to the pre-marital property of the in-laws and had nothing to do with her. And only paid the down payment, and the loan needs to be paid back by both of them.

She had to spend a lot of money, but only got the right to live in a new house. The old couple are really calculating!

After she made a scene, the old man said that she wouldn't consider transferring to their husband and wife's name until she gave birth to her grandson. Until then, anything is possible.

Not to mention that. After marriage, whenever her mother-in-law sees her wearing new clothes, she will whisper that she has squandered her son's hard-earned money again. No matter what she buys, as long as she is found, she will chase the price at the first time and whose money she spent.

This made her very depressed, thinking that she was just cheated into her husband's family, and they didn't treat themselves as family at all.

It can be said that whether the husband's family is willing to give a bride price before marriage? Are you tolerant and rational about spending money after marriage? The test is that a woman who wants to get married must polish her eyes and observe carefully.

Bride price and dowry are equivalent to the cost of protection and breach of contract paid by both families for their children's marriage, and also represent the importance attached to this marriage and the respect and recognition for the newcomers who are about to become a family.

The husband-in-law who wants to be careless about this issue has ulterior motives.

Imagine an insecure marriage. If you break up, the other party will have nothing to lose. How can you be kind to a woman who marries into her own family?

In-laws who don't want you to spend their money after marriage also have the mentality of not treating you as family.

Because only when you treat outsiders will you be so vigilant and care about everything. When you meet such a family, you may be sure that your happiness should not be high.

The second detail: the attitude of the mother-in-law when the husband and wife quarrel.

Some mothers-in-law are so extreme, critical and harsh after their daughter-in-law takes the door, because she always wants to compete with this woman to be the hostess of the family, to prove her unique and supreme rights, to show her special status, and to be afraid that her son will marry her daughter-in-law and forget her mother, so she always does the right thing with her daughter-in-law and regards her daughter-in-law as her greatest enemy.

This situation is not uncommon, and it is very common in most families in today's society. But common doesn't mean normal. It is natural that the daughter-in-law of this family is unhappy.

Does the other family really care about you after marriage? Do couples defend you when they quarrel? It is also one of the keys to measure whether your husband's family regards you as one of their own. Obviously, I believe that women in marriage should understand.

Xiao Fei leads a very rich life, which can be seen from her face, expression and behavior.

Her girl friends said that she married well, and her husband was very gentle and considerate, always accommodating her everywhere. Everyone envied her good luck.

In this regard, she gave a statement: "I married the right family instead of marrying the right man. Everyone in my husband's family regards me as their own daughter, so good that sometimes my husband will be jealous.

My mother-in-law washed and peeled the fruit and gave it to me directly. If I fall asleep on the sofa, I will be covered with a blanket brought by my mother-in-law when I wake up. When the old couple go shopping, they always remember to buy my favorite cakes and snacks.

If I quarrel with my husband, my in-laws will always scold him and will definitely take my side, which is why he has always been so accommodating and loving to me. My parents are not very well. Do you think I am lucky? "

To put it bluntly, it is not a high probability event to meet a very reasonable husband's family who regards his daughter-in-law as a real relative. It really depends on luck and opportunity.

Of course, before getting married, a woman should not only pay attention to her feelings with a man, but also carefully examine his family and family, which is very crucial and beneficial to her marriage.

A wise husband, who knows how to put himself in the other's shoes, will not only focus on the present, but also ignore the future.

I don't think my daughter-in-law is an outsider, just to "rob" my son. Moreover, when the young couple have an argument, they will directly defend their children and criticize others' children for the purpose of "protecting their weaknesses".

They will understand that if you are kind to your daughter-in-law, you are saving for your old age. You are good to her now, and she will be good to you in the future.

People's hearts are all flesh, and only by giving can we get a reward. Planting hatred and opposition will only produce indifference and alienation.

The third detail: the attitude of her mother-in-law during the month.

Some mothers-in-law will think that they have no obligation to take care of their daughter-in-law during pregnancy, childbirth and confinement, because there is no such explanation in law.

But there will be many opinions and grievances about this daughter-in-law.

First, I have no experience in this field and need the guidance and care of my elders; Secondly, she will feel that if she marries her husband's family, the children born will also have the same surname as their family.

Not to mention obligations, for reasons of humanitarianism and family, mother-in-law should not stand by and act as if she has nothing to do with herself, which will make her too chilling.

Is your mother-in-law willing to take care of you during pregnancy and confinement? For many women, this is the most intuitive way to know whether they are regarded as family members in their in-laws, because they can't hide it.

Lu Yuan was very well during her pregnancy. Although most of the soup cooked by her mother-in-law is only good for the fetus in the womb, and the taste is not very good, she did not consider her taste, but at least she tried her best.

However, when she saw that she gave birth to a daughter after childbirth, her mother-in-law suddenly collapsed, and she didn't know when to leave quietly, let alone stay and take care of her.

When he was ready to leave the hospital and go home, the old man asked his son to send a message saying that he wanted to go home. Something happened at her sister's house, and he was worried.

Everyone with eyes knows that's an excuse. How can there be such a clever thing in the world? Even if there is, there are mothers and newborns to take care of at home. Is other people's business more important than this?

After understanding each other's intentions, she went straight back to her mother's house and sat for the next month. Because of this incident, she has been bitter and can't forgive each other.

I feel that my husband's family is too realistic and cruel, and their relationship is always not very close. The reason is that when you need to care most, the other party's approach is really too much.

It is said that a woman will never forget the hatred she created in her confinement. This may affect her getting along with her husband's family, and the length of time may be lifelong.

It doesn't take much time to find out what kind of treatment a person will get in a family, but it can be understood and perceived through various small things or major events.

Especially in this decisive stage related to the birth of a child, as a mother-in-law, it is not particularly difficult for her to make some efforts, spend some thoughts and efforts, and let the other party remember it and be grateful for it for life.

Mother-in-law is also a woman who has been a daughter-in-law, and understands how hard it is to be born a woman.

You don't have to taste the bitterness of life yourself, but you must force the latecomers (daughters-in-law) who marry into your family to taste enough when you have the right, so as to be balanced and fair.

More kindness and consideration reflect your double business and generosity.

Of course, unmarried women should also pay attention. Before getting married, they must remember to look at their husband's family's three views, family style and personality, so that they will not live so humbled and timid after getting married.

Do you think it's too much to ask at least to marry a family that regards you as one of its own, so that you won't be cheated and your life won't suffer?